Farting driving me insane!

[Ivy2006]

I hope this doesn't make me sound shallow!

I completely understand that farting is natural and something we all do. And I do agree that we should feel comfortable in our relationships to do this in front of each other.

HOWEVER, my partner farts non stop. Literally 20 times a day. It's like he forces it out. I love him more than anything but it's getting to the point I'm perhaps less attracted to him because all I can focus on is the smelly farts haha! Especially come bed time when I want to relax and have a cuddle in bed and all he does is fart. I end up staying on the edge of the bed to avoid to smell. I want him to feel comfortable to do it in front of me but if I need to do it then I usually go to another room and keep it to myself rather than make a song and dance about it.

Am I being shallow?! I've tried talking to him but he just doesn't get it. He's stopped doing it when I've got a drink or food in my hand thankfully but I just can't cope with how often it is.

As well as this, he always says things like 'my bum is itchy' and itches it in front of me. Is this normal to be this open and comfortable? I've never had this in a relationship before. It's like he sees me as a mate. Help!

Seriously
How can you stay with him OP?
The lack of respect he must have for you

This isn't about farts anymore, this is about his total lack of respect and consideration for you. This relationship is already over. Move on.

Op!!

I have just read your many many threads you have started about this man

Including

Him giving you the “ick” after sex
Him refusing to allow you to break up with him

And many others too

Seriously op - this is a shit shit relationship

Maybe he's got a food intolerance.
When you say "partner", do you mean "new boyfriend" or "husband of ten years"? If the former, my advice would be to find another boyfriend who's experienced and/or intelligent enough to realise that this is not how you attract a partner.

Op

Why are you allowing this man in the home of your young daughter

He allows his son to sit in your face, attack you and has threatened to drown your daughter
You have tried to break up with him more than 8 times
You say it’s been a “very Rocky” 2 years
He gives you the “ick” after sex

And there’s more.

If you don’t do it for yourself
FGS do it for your daughter

He threatened to drown your daughter??????

You have far bigger problems than the farting (which is vile BTW and I would ditch him for that alone)

You don't have to 'try' and break up with someone op. You just tell them it's over and that's that. He sounds vile.

Seriously

The op has started about a dozen threads about him

His farting is the least of the problems

I don’t think she will be back though

As posters have been urging her to leave him since last year but obviously done bugger all about it

Rank. No its not normal.

Rude, childish and disrespectful. Ditch him - he'll soon stop - then let him come back...

@ClemDanFango
I wish 😂😂😂

"I want him to feel comfortable to do it in front of me "

Why? Why, why, why?

I certainly don't want that in a partner and would be massively turned off. How can you even contemplate sex?

Some mystique and refinement are part of respecting one another. No one wants to hear about anyone else's itchy arsehole. Let alone the rest of it.

I have IBD, so makes me gassier than most. Been with my husband for 13 years and probably farted twice in front of him. I find it rude. Go to the bathroom and open the window ffs.

@Fortyseven007

My not so dear H does it too. In a fact all his family does that, especially his father. It’s absolutely disgusting. I come from family and background ( different country) where this is tabu, we don’t fart in the front of others- never ever. Not so dear H farts and picks his nose ( eats it) The second I turn my head away his finger is in his nose. Scratches his arse, his balls, absolutely disgusting. Obviously everyone farts but come on- you can make it quiet so nobody would know, if it doesn’t smell that rotten. We don’t kiss anymore as I just can’t, imagine his mouth was just full of boogies bleeeeeee.

Serious question: why do you stay?

@Responsiveroo

Op!!

I have just read your many many threads you have started about this man

Including

Him giving you the “ick” after sex
Him refusing to allow you to break up with him

And many others too

Seriously op - this is a shit shit relationship

He sounds utterly repugnant and disgusting. WTH are you still with him, still complaining about him on MN and still ignoring all the suggestions MNers have made? Either everything is fictitious or you still clearly enjoy being with him regardless of his revolting behaviour.

Sounds like my ogre of an ex I left. How are you supposed to be attracted to him?

If his bum is itchy he needs to go and wipe it properly.

If his bum is itching he could have haemorrhoids or something. Tell him to go to doctor about his farts. Does he go to toilet a lot? Ibs? Bit harsh to dump him over that. If it was something like bad hygeine but maybe this something he cannot help.

I have ibs and if my partner dumped me over it, I'd be devastated.

Saying that I wouldn't let off wind all the time around him especially cuddling. Tell him he could reign that in as it affects you wanting to be with him romantically.

If it was something like bad hygeine but maybe this something he cannot help

OP has stated that he is able to not do this in certain circumstances, and does it deliberately when they are alone together.

My husband did this for years. He did go to the doctor and was diagnosed with irritable bowel syndrome and hiatus hernia. But it was the not caring who did it in front of, the thinking it was funny. Poopooing when I tried to explain it made him look childish and ridiculous. Well, a decade later he has mental health problems of the depression and anxiety type and one of his worries is that nobody takes him seriously and he compares himself with others. Well, I did say a decade of farting in other peoples vicinity as his hallmark has made people not take him seriously. All your own doing, love. He doesn´t do it hardly ever and not before others.

Absolutely disgusting and disrespectful.

Was coming on to raise IBS, the lack of respect in his behaviour, that she is not shallow as everyone has their personal limits on what they can tolerate - but it sounds like the problems in her relationship are much bigger than farts!

As an aside I think Shreddies saved my marriage!! My husband has IBS (but never wilfully farts in front of me!!) and would generally manage to contain/deal during the day. Unfortunately his control was not good when asleep and when I was woken up choking from the smell or the noise, he bought Shreddies and wore them to bed. No more smells and the noise is also reduced due to the padding on the pants!!

@Responsiveroo

Op

Why are you allowing this man in the home of your young daughter

He allows his son to sit in your face, attack you and has threatened to drown your daughter
You have tried to break up with him more than 8 times
You say it’s been a “very Rocky” 2 years
He gives you the “ick” after sex

And there’s more.

If you don’t do it for yourself
FGS do it for your daughter

😲 this is really worrying. Why are you laughing OP when it's clearly not at all funny, especially in light of your other posts.

I've farted in front of all of my ex's! Buy him some Anusol lol

I feel you OP mine does it in front of me too, same I think you have to be comfortable in each others presence to do it and I sometimes do on occasions, something that can't be helped.
The only thing that really irritates me is he never excuses himself when he does fart even when burping.