I seem to be offending people just by existing

[Flyingonaboat]

I have had so many unpleasant comments lately I don’t think it can solely be other people but I’m stumped as to how I’m causing offence.

A good friendship of some twenty five years has seen me blanked recently. This may not be me, she has had some upsetting news recently as her much-loved dog died.

A colleague at work is treating me like a complete imbecile. Yesterday I was packing my things up to go home she told me not to forget my phone, to make sure I posted a letter that was on the desk and to put my coat on She also pulled me out of the middle of something today to check I had read an email. Colleague isn’t my superior in any way and is some ten years younger than me.

Another colleague has taken to jumping down my throat whenever I say anything. Today I casually mentioned I needed to pass a message on to someone, adding I wouldn’t do it now as they were busy. She said in horrified tones ‘no, DON’T do it now!’ I did say ‘yes, I just said I wouldn’t.’

Another friend - or someone I thought was a friend - criticised my Dcs car seat in a group chat and said that they looked ‘scared.’ I felt so humiliated.

I’m feeling really low at the moment and it could be I’m reading too much into these but i can’t remember ever feeling like I was treading on eggshells as much as right now.

Colleague would get a talking to tbh stopping you in the middle of something unless it was more important? And telling you not to forget your phone etc would probably get a "yes mother" response too, are they going for a promotion or is there talk of work cuts? Trying to big themselves up for management?

The one jumping down your throat I might ask if there was an issue they were struggling with? Because they dont seem themselves

Your friend? Send them a sympathy message here if you need me its shite when you lose a pet

Thanks for being kind. Like you say, the number of people I seem to have had run ins with has just got me down.

@Theunamedcat colleague is very ambitious but likes to present herself as not ambitious at all, which is bizarre!

I’m not sure about the other colleague. She’s one of those who has been there absolutely forever so can’t be argued with, her word is law, which makes it awkward when it feels as if they’ve taken against you. I genuinely don’t know why, either.

(((HUG)))

I think when we're feeling a bit low these things 'register' in a way they don't when we're doing ok.

I think individually they can be easily explained!

The third one can be explained by saying 'she's always an annoying twat' who thinks she's 'all that'

It's hard to ignore this kind of thing when you're feeling crap. So put the focus on feeling/getting better and it'll roll off you more easily.

I am going out for a walk every day, I don't really want to, but I am and I think I'm feeling better for the fresh air. Try to get some fresh air, but also make time to do things you want to do/enjoy. Doesn't matter what it is... read a book in the bath/bed, glass of wine in front of a box set, paint your nails (mine would fall off in shock!)...

Hope things seem better soon !

Thanks, I think you’re right. I’m really tired and run down and generally not being great at self care - just about managing personal hygiene and that’s it!

I wouldn’t class any of these incidents as run ins. Just people with different personalities existing together.