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How do I get over it?

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lifeistoocomplicated · 05/04/2022 18:12

Sorry for the long post

I have been in my relationship for nearly 20 year and we've been married for 9 of those years. I think my husband cheated before we were married but I guess that's all in the past since then he has admitted to sleeping with someone twice, I think it was an affair for 6 months but can't be certain, another person I accused him of stuff and has only admitted to fingering her!! There's also another couple of women I think he's been with but can't be sure and he obviously hasn't admitted it.
We split on August 2022 and ended up seeing his friend (I know, completely wrong!) it all got very messy and because of all the treats and nastiness I ended getting back with my husband because the other guy was truest horrible and wanted to end his career.
It's been hard but with have 2 children and I've said if we are going to make a go of it it needs to be put in the past and we need to move forward.

Roll on to 5 weeks ago and I ended up with what I think is herpes! The doctor didn't label my test properly so the lab wouldn't test it, so need to get tested again if it flares up. I was obviously absolutely mortified, but my husband didn't question me no nothing and I just find this so strange. If it's not come from him I wouldn't have thought he would be questioning me and the lack of questioning makes me feel as though there is something he is hiding.

Am I overthinking it or do you think he is hiding something else? I don't know if I will ever trust him properly again but this has been playing on my mind so much over the past few weeks and I can't stand him touching me.

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Needtobuildabridge · 05/04/2022 18:16

Sorry, just to check do you mean that you split in August 2021?

lifeistoocomplicated · 05/04/2022 18:20

No sorry we split in August 2020 and then got back together December 2020

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