Any advice please? TW sexual abuse

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Hi. Last year my older brother's wife told me that my brother was abused by our uncle when we were kids. She was a bit pissed at the time when she told me and we were away in another country.
I don't know if she told my brother that she told me or not.
I am not sure whether to mention it to my brother, it seems weird not to but also weird to say something if she hasn't mentioned it. I was also abused but not by the same man and it's not something I want to talk to my brother about and I think that is part of why I don't want to talk to him about what she told me.
I want to be a good sister and do the right thing but I don't really know what that is. I hate the thought that he knows I know and I've said nothing, not even 'I'm sorry that happened to you'
Any advice would be really appreciated.

We don't see each other often, like three or four times a year at family get togethers. We were close for a time when we were younger but not now.

I’m sorry your childhood was spoiled in this way. It must be the hardest thing to bear some days.
I can appreciate how difficult this must be regarding a discussion with your brother but in your shoes I’d probably let sleeping dogs lie.
You might stir up memories for him he’d rather forget or has come to terms with & likewise how would it help him to share your experiences?
Others may come along with better advice or insight but as you and your brother are not so close now, I’d leave it be.
Big hug.

Thank you for this. Yes I think you might be right. I had been feeling guilty about just ignoring it but probably best left

So sorry to read of this OP.

id possibly approach his wife and clarify if he knows that you know and also get her perspective on whether she thinks you should broach it with him?

take care

Yes I thought about that, I don't want to just contact her about that though so perhaps when we are together at some point. Bit of a tricky thing to bring up though!