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WonderWheels22 · 04/04/2022 11:04

My male friend has just left the old marital home. Although he has been separated from his wife and living separate lives despite living in the same house (he had his own space/rooms) he hasn’t been separated from his 11 year old daughter. He will see her part time but I’m just not sure of the best way to support him. I haven’t got children myself and although I’m very empathetic I don’t know what to say for the best. I know nothing I can say will make him feel any more 💩 but I want to try to find the balance of giving him space yet caring without smothering him. We are very close and are working towards a possible relationship although we do live in different countries at present so I cannot go and physically give him a hug. Any advice?

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titchy · 04/04/2022 11:14

Yep. Step away.

Chamomileteaplease · 04/04/2022 12:34

You will have to get the balance right between being able to listen if he has anything to say about it but not becoming a dumping ground for him to offload onto.

It's not the end of the world though. Will he want or get 50/50? At eleven years old I would think this quite workable and not too upsetting for him or the child.

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