DS asked DH tonight you arent going to get a girlfriend are you

[jenk1]

and DH replied

well one day i will

he previously asked me and i said no.

DS is AS and has spent the last half hour crying and throwing up in the bathroom.

im so with DH.

i phoned him to tell him and he said "tell him im joking" and i said but you know he doesnt get jokes he,s autistic, then DS came downstairs crying asking for his dad so he phoned him and DH apologised and said he was only joking.

DS said he,s been holding dd,s hand while she,s asleep thinking how its ok cos she doesnt know anything about us splitting up and what is really going on.
he said he doesnt want our family to split and if his dad gets a girlfriend he will leather her.

i feel so for him.

oh jenk

he sounds such a sweet caring boy, so sorry you having to cope with the aftermath of a stupid, thoughtless comment xx

jenk how could he say that to DS, i`m so and for you.

Im sure some men are born without brains!!

I hope your DS is ok now? what a lovely little boy you have there

Ds was still being sick and i phoned xdh to tell him so he came round and immediately said to ds "are you upset over what i have said or has your mum being saying something else to you"

i told him to leave.

i said dont dare turn this around to make this my fault, he started arguing so i threw him out.

he is unable to take responsibility for any of his actions.

i cant believe he said that, how dare he come into your home an basicly acuse you of turning thigs around. He doesnt want to admit to himself that he was in the wrong, he wants to think that this is your fault not his!

I think you did the right thing by chucking him out

I am honestly gobsmacked by this

Is he always like this? (dh)

yes he never ever admits he.s wrong, never faces responsibility fir anything.

he,s mr passive aggresive and has emotionally abused me for a while only i didnt know until a few months ago.

So sorry Jenk, he truly is a git!

I'm a bit confused, is this man your dh, or your ex-h, or are there two men here?

sorry its the same man, xdh

i really don`t know what to say.

I think he needs to grow up!!

He should also think before he opens his mouth to his children.

So for you and ds. What an ass.

yes he is an ass.

im still fuming this morning.

i know what he,s doing he,s trying to get a reaction out of me the only way he knows how through ds, he doesnt care about ds, hasnt done for a while.

i spoke to ds this morning and told him i wanted him to spend the day with me on saturday and not go with his dad and he went ballistic.

im going to have to do it very carefully cos he,s AS and doesnt like change but i cannot have DH using him as an emotional football.

thank goodness me and the kids are going away next week for a fortnight and ill have some peace from him