ve never posted here before but I am at my wits end. My husband and I have had various issues over the years but we have always worked through them. He has always been very controlling about money and very jealous. I took out loans years ago to try to make ends meet and when he found out he phoned all my family to tell them went into the local credit union where our neighbors worked and told them all. Anyway we got passed this as it was my fault and I should have found some other way to beside taking out a loan which I worked 3 jobs to pay back. Anyway last Friday I had a total thyroidectomy and the hospital lost my rings when I was in theatre my wedding ring, eternity ring which I got when my first child was born 25 years ago and my engagement ring. I was very upset and gave out to the people concerned. P did not support me at all and when he collected me to bring me home he drove at 120km the whole way home and when I got upset saying that I was in pain he abused me saying that he know I had an affair(never did) that I am a spendthrift and no one could put up with me. My sister feels that he is an abuser who strikes when u are down and that there is no going back. At the minute all I want to do is cry I cannot think straight. Advice please