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Domestic violence

9 replies

Jlos · 03/04/2022 22:33

Hi
Just want to share my story about being in a violent relationship I met my partner 3 years ago he was the perfect guy at first, handsome, funny , attentive, loving all the usual honeymoon period stuff!!! After the first few dates I realised he had a drink problem and he turned very aggressive in beer I come to realise later that he had been battling with drink since he was 11 years old I wanted to help him I fell in love with him but he was always chasing the next drink!!! He moved in with me and my 2 children (not his) I thought i can control this drinking with him but I was so wrong, he use to drink in front of my children then start on me it was arguments at first then the hitting started, the first time he hit me was in the kitchen he punched me right in my face I fell to the floor and screamed at him to leave he begged me back and I went back then he went to jail I found out I was pregnant to him had the baby the baby was 8 weeks old when he got out he promised to change but it got worse the drinking I told him he would have to stay at his mums I can’t have that around my children I’d let him stay when my other 2 children were at their dads but he got worse he would drink I would put our daughter to bed and he would start being violent starting a an argument over nothing then hitting me, punching me in my head and spitting on me, he broke my nose while my daughter was in her cot and he made me clean my blood off the floor whilst he was spitting on me he’s done this twice the second time his daughter was in the front room when he done it I was distraught for my baby she was crawling around in my blood that was pouring from my nose I rang the police and I’m currently going through all that goes with it, he has done a lot more too had a knife upto me whilst pregnant , strangled, and the verbal abuse was herrendous the list is endless, I never realised how hard it is to get out of an abusive relationship before and when people tell u to get rid and run a mile it’s harder than u think , I would be the one saying exactly the same to someone else in that situation but now I’ve been through it I have so much admiration for all these abused women because getting out is so so hard it takes so much courage it really does ❤️

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Jk24 · 03/04/2022 23:04

Well done for taking the steps needed to keep you and your children away from this horrific man. I'm sorry you went through this op, you can now get through anything! Build a wonderful life for you and your dcFlowers

Jlos · 03/04/2022 23:21

Thankyou @Jk24 xxx 😘

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Jk24 · 04/04/2022 14:20

Good luck x

Justcallmebebes · 04/04/2022 15:20

Well done for getting him away from your children. That should be your priority and making sure you stay away from him

AthenaPopodopolous · 04/04/2022 16:56

If you don’t leave then your kids will be taken off you. So leave now before he kills you. Or before the kids are removed by social workers or the police.

Jk24 · 04/04/2022 21:36

I think op has left?

Jlos · 05/04/2022 09:40

@Justcallmebebes I moved out of my home that I had lived in for 7 years I presented myself as homeless and got moved to emergency accommodation waiting on a permanent home now to start fresh with my children xx

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AthenaPopodopolous · 05/04/2022 18:06

Good to hear that and you are safe

Jlos · 05/04/2022 18:29

Thankyou 🙏 @AthenaPopodopolous

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