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Struggling with my mum

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Pie3 · 03/04/2022 20:34

I feel like I have no clue how to deal with my mum anymore. She divorced my dad about a decade ago and really hasn’t coped well since, she’s become very anti men in general and has become quite angry in her views towards the world. She is also quite reliant on having my sister and her around her, although we try to be supportive, we both live two hours away and it is difficult to see her regularly whilst working full time. My partner and I tend to visit our families alternate months so I visit her every other month. She knows she is welcome to come to my house on the month that I don’t visit but in seven months she hasn’t been once despite being invited. She is clearly lonely and now sulks when I spend time with my partners family or cannot go and see her but I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried to encourage her to get out more, maybe join some clubs to make a larger circle of friends but she won’t. It’s making me feel so anxious and I don’t know what to do because I’m worried she’s lonely and unhappy but doesn’t seem to want to find ways to meet new people (friends or a partner). Anyone been here or have any advice?

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Shoxfordian · 03/04/2022 20:47

The only thing you can change is your reaction; she’s perfectly capable of joining a club or trying to make other friends if she wants to- don’t let her make you feel guilty

Pie3 · 03/04/2022 21:33

I do try, sometimes I can see this but other times I just feel such an immense sense of responsibility as her child, we all just want our parents to be happy

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