Normal to be into someone else while married?

[IndigoLa]

I literally don't know if this is normal at some point in a marriage or if this is a sign it's not going to work long term.

I've been married for 2 years to someone who was originally from a different country. We were long distance for a period of time but in the end he moved here and we both communicate in our non native language perfectly fine, it's been a great relationship and of course he then proposed and we got married, we are looking at buying our first house and even having children soon.

I really love him, he's great, but we are quite different which I always thought worked just fine.

Can't lie though someone has come along who is just so insanely similar to me, we have developed such a good friendship and it's got back to me that if I wasn't married he would be interested and i keep thinking about that over and over and part of me has found myself maybe being a bit over complimentary.

I don't know how to feel right now, I haven't had any feelings like this since being married and I don't wanna rush into any decision.

I mean, we're all human, you don't just stop fancyng other people once you're married. But it's how you deal with those feelings that's the important bit. Pretty much everyone will get a crush on someone else at some point.

I've fancied other people. But whereas I've been very aware it's just a daft crush and saw it as a bit of fun (and certainly wouldnt have pursued it while I was married), my husband didn't deal so well with his. He became a bit obsessive about her to the point that it damaged our relationship (hence why I've now decided I want to split).

Just be careful. Are things genuinely ok with your husband, is there anything missing or anything you're not completely happy about? If so, talk to him and try to deal with it.

Being married doesn't stop you taking a shine to other people. However, you don't act on it.
That is why marriage is such a special relationship because you resist the temptation of other attractive people and your spouse does the same.

A crush.

I have a crush on a famous person but no one in real life and haven't since I got with my husband. I think it's because I know I won't ever go there with someone else but a celeb crush is just a fantasy.