Devastated after relationship ending

[KatieKate24]

My partner of almost 10 years confessed he thinks he has feelings for someone else, and while he think I’m the love of their life,he want time to sort himself out and told me he’s in a dark mental health place and not himself right now. He says he doesn’t recognise himself and hates who he is right now.

So obviously I left. But I’m so incredibly heartbroken, he was my absolute best friend as well as my partner. We had (what I thought) was an incredibly happy, healthy and toxic free relationship up until he confessed he kissed someone else. He would have done anything for me and I’m struggling to come to terms with how that’s changed. My world has turned on its head and I’m struggling to see how I will ever feel normal without him. It’s been a month and the world around me just seems like a blur.

I can’t imagine ever loving someone else, we grew up together, celebrated new jobs together, first holidays abroad together, first house and were going to try and start a family next year. I really feel like I’m in mourning and it won’t ever get easier, I can’t express how much I thought we would be together forever. This scenario never, ever crossed my mind.

I could just do with some words of wisdom and ‘it will get better’ stories to be honest because I’m struggling to see light right now.

Been there, done that, got the Tshirt. Exactly the same. I was doing an intensive job, he felt neglected, found a work colleague and had a slight 'thing' We were about to 'celebrate' 30yrs together. I was not really surprised and although I didn't want to break up over it I didn't beg or say anything beyond the fact that he had to decide (cos I wasn't leaving the house). He stayed, she left the place where they worked and it all got resolved. You will have to decide whether you want to stay together, and put it behind you. You will never forget but you can forgive. If that's the path you choose it will get better and you might be stronger for it

"So obviously I left". Why was it you that had to leave? Also, what explanation did he give for his straying? Did you have no idea whatsoever that he was unhappy? Sorry for the prying questions but if you had answers to them, then maybe you can begin to understand.