I suppose you could say it's my own fault. When I first met my boyfriend he was still friends with his ex. He had been suicidal the year before and she had remained there for him whilst he was going through a bad time. I tried my best to just see that as the reason they had to remain so close. I always respect it it but but it got to a point where I realised there was potential risk that he wasn't over her. He just mentioned her a lot. But also no he didn't seem to want to show me off on Facebook but he always used to show her off. When we first got together as she started sending harsh messages to him about me and he blocked it for a while full stop you then told me a month later they were messaging through WhatsApp but he insisted they were just friends. I remember of sitting down for a couple of hours one night and I asked loads of questions and and I did believe that he was over here after that conversation. He explained why they didn't work and what things she did and he did to contribute to the relationship failing. She finally dropped off the seen about 5 months ago as far as I was aware. We've been a lot happier and she's not mentioned very often and I finally felt like we were proper couple. Just a couple of days ago I asked him if you ever hear from her anymore and he denied it. He says no I can't remember the last time we spoke. I have no reason to doubt him and I was sort of relieved of that they both had finally moved away from each other a bit as I feel they were still emotionally involved.
He went for a bath today day-to-day left his phone next to me on the sofa. His screen lit up with her name and a WhatsApp message with a screen preview. She had told him to always be happy and not cry at the memories. Rightly or wrongly clicked on on the message to see why she sent it. Last night he had laid in bed and sent her songs that reminded him of her and told her to listen to them too. He told her that he felt sad thinking of the memories. I scroll up a few more messages and they were engaging in regular conversations about day-to-day things like their cars and he was very chatty with her considering he tells me he hates messages. What's good out to me was his messages to her seem more affectionate and warm and genuine than mine. All this is really hurt me because I've been helping him sort out a house and I've been supporting him through a very difficult time as he's losing his home and he's had to stop working due to chronic back pain. If it wasn't for me his dog won't be walked sometimes and he's struggle for food and many other things. I've been really good to him and I thought it was because we were in a loving relationship.
I went upstairs and said to him I'm going home. He asked me why and I said the messages between you and your ex. He said you would must have been on my phone phone to see any messages. I said to him why why are you still? Why don't you end it with me me because clearly you are still in the past with your ex. I've given you so many chances to tell me the truth if you still have feelings for her. If you had told me you still had feelings for her we could have talked about it and figured out with our relationship can work. I feel like you've completely lied to me me. He told me to get out because now I've gone through his phone he didn't want any more to do with me me. I said to him that they need to make a decision whether they want to get back together before they bring anybody else into this mess.
I just introduce my kids to him last week and I honestly thought we will build in a future up. He hasn't answered his phone since I've left and he's completely not said anything. This is been a big lie for a relationship that he's clearly not been honest with me about. I just don't know how to feel I begged him to tell me if there was still feelings there. I know there's not much anyone can say but I really want to talk it through