Hello,
I've been messaging a colleague for the past few months and we got pretty close to the point we admitted that we thought about each other all of the time. We message constantly. We decided to hookup and we agreed to hookup on a regular basis. I was happy with this until it's dawning on me that I think he's a player and messaging other girls as well as me as he always on his phone. I know I shouldn't be bothered as we're just hooking up but I think his behaviour last night has got me questioning him. We went out with a bunch of people with work last night and he hardly said 2 words to me in person and then started flirting with a girl right in front of me. I should also admit that I find myself ignoring him in social situations so as not to make people suspicious of us but it just left me feeling like I had been benched. Then this morning he messaged me first thing to ask how my night was and then again later to make sure I was ok. Do I have any right to feel this way and should I talk to him about it? Is he just checking in to make sure I'm not mad at him? We message about our interests and we do sext as well and I'd say 99% of the time he initiates the messaging.