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How would you feel if your boyfriend did this?

33 replies

EncantoBruno · 02/04/2022 15:31

Back story:

Boyfriend starts job at new company and makes friends with a female colleague. They become very close and do a lot together. She is in a long term relationship as is he.
Boyfriend leaves company and moves a few miles away to a different town.
Boyfriend currently self employed (flexible hours).
Boyfriend stays in touch with colleague and drives 45 minutes every day to see her on her break.

Current situation:

Boyfriend and girlfriend just had a baby so both on maternity leave. Boyfriend still meeting colleague daily.

None of these people are me.

What would you think of this situation?

OP posts:
MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 02/04/2022 15:32

That the boyfriend is emotionally and probably sexually invested elsewhere and that if he telling him to fuck off.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 02/04/2022 15:33

I would be not if he

Lubeyboobyalt · 02/04/2022 15:33

Weekly would maybe seem like a friendship to me depending on various factors but every day? Yikes

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 02/04/2022 15:34

I have good platonic male friends. Neither of us would drive 45 mins to see each other everyday however great we get on because we have lives and jobs. Sounds sus to me.

Bdhntbis · 02/04/2022 15:35

I would not have had a baby with a man who was doing this and would assume some kind of relationship beyond a normal friendship. Those are not lengths I’d go to for a friend despite being very close to my best friend.

arethereanyleftatall · 02/04/2022 15:42

He drives an hour and a half every single day to see a friend for what half an hour?!? Come on. I wouldn't have had a baby with him in the first place.

Totalwasteofpaper · 02/04/2022 15:43

If I was the girlfriend...
the boyfriend wouldn't be my boyfriend.

And I certainly wouldn't have been silly enough to decide it was a good idea to breed with a man who is divesting his time, emotional and financial energy elsewhere.

FTEngineerM · 02/04/2022 15:44

Is this an actual joke, an hour and a half round trip for an hour with an ex-colleague/friend?

Nah.

AllOfUsAreDead · 02/04/2022 15:46

I wouldnt have had a baby with him and your friend is about to become a single parent.

Oxo01 · 02/04/2022 15:48

I would flatten his tyres

Icantfly · 02/04/2022 15:51

I would leave him. No one drives 7.5 hours every weeks to spend 2.5 hours with someone in a non-professional, platonic capacity.

FrancescaContini · 02/04/2022 15:53

He wouldn’t be my boyfriend any more, obviously.

Hiddenvoice · 02/04/2022 16:00

I have close male friends but we would not drive 45 mins to see each other daily. We especially wouldn’t do it when on maternity / paternity leave.
I’d think there was something more going on and I’d be questioning his relationship with the girlfriend and the other woman

TheNameOfTheRoses · 02/04/2022 16:07

Boyfriend has an affair and is living a double life.

Can’t believe that his girlfriend is accepting that.

I’d be wondering who the baby is.

bonfireheart · 02/04/2022 16:11

Ridiculous

billy1966 · 02/04/2022 16:15

I would think the girlfriend was batshit having a child with him if she knew this was going on.

Absolutely batshit.

Usernameisgone · 02/04/2022 16:16

He would be my ex quick sharp. No way is that platonic...

Moser85 · 02/04/2022 16:19

There's clearly something going on.
Is it possible that they are polyamorous and that it's all above board?

If not then I would imagine he's a huge gaslighting prick who tells her she's crazy to have a problem with it and trying to be controlling if she questions it because I can't imagine a situation where someone would be ok with this.

excelledyourself · 02/04/2022 16:21

Please tell me he has an electric car.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 02/04/2022 16:30

I'd think she's going to end up a single parent within a year

babywalker56 · 02/04/2022 16:32

Just as the comments say. He would no longer be my boyfriend.

This bit was enough for me ‘Boyfriend stays in touch with colleague and drives 45 minutes every day to see her on her break.’ Let alone having a baby with someone who is clearly so devoted to someone else. Seriously fuck that

bonfireheart · 02/04/2022 16:34

Most guys don't even put that much effort into seeing their actual girlfriends!

CallMeDaddy58 · 02/04/2022 17:03

@excelledyourself

Please tell me he has an electric car.
Indeed!

I’ve just had a baby. I wouldn’t except my DH driving 10 minutes to see a male friend he’s known for 20 years every day of paternity leave.

balalake · 02/04/2022 17:08

Does not seem a platonic friend. Once a month perhaps to give support in someone's career maybe, were that the case, but I suspect an affair of sorts.

Or the 45 minutes is not spent visiting said ex colleague but someone else.

Howmanydaysuntilfriday · 02/04/2022 17:08

Long lunch break Hmm drive 45 mins on his break to see the mother of his baby and baby on his break would make him a wonderful man. Drive 45 mins on his break to see another woman make him a creep.

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