Relationship disagreement

[Idislikeblippy]

Hi all,

I hope you can settle a dispute my partner and I have had;

Over the last 6 months or so my partner hasn't had a car as they sold it. So during this time I offered up my car (when I wasn't using it for work) for them to use as and when they need. The same as I am with any of my stuff they want to use.

Over the weekend we repaced my partners car with a family suv. I asked if I could borrow it to drop something off at my parents as it won't fit in my car, my partner has said no, I'm not allowed to use their car as they don't trust my driving... And that they're well within their right to not allow me to use anything of theirs.

When I turned round and suggested maybe my partner should use my stuff anymore (slightly pettty I know) they said I was being ridiculous and not living in the real world.

I know I have no right to assume I can use my partners stuff but I'm slightly upset they couldn't show me the same courtesy.

What are youre thoughts please?

Also did you drive the other car?

@Maybeitstimeforachange

Also did you drive the other car?

Occasionally but we both had similar cars so no need to

Unless you have max points on your license and a history of bad driving (ie tickets etc) that is a completely unacceptable position to take. You are not 'allowed' to drive a car you helped pay for? There is so much controlling and financially abusive behaviour there its hard to unpick. Is your partner similarly insulting and controlling in other areas? Are they fair with costs and money generally, do they do their fair share of unpaid work at home?

If you drove her other car then you should also drive this one. You are a partnership.

OP are you the man/husband in this scenario?

I don't like my partner driving my car for similar reasons to the ones you've given about your driving style.

Yes I'm being a bit precious and I know it but I can't help it. His driving style sends me potty. When we are in his car I similarly object to his driving style but I do my very best to keep my trap shut!

Could it be along the same lines?

Whhaat have I just read?

The car he's just sold - who bought it? Him, you or joint money?

So it's mostly joint financed car but you asked permission and were told that you are not ALLOWED to drive it. Some great partnership you have there OP