How to leave with no money/family

[newyearsresolurion]

Currently on Mat leave and sick of h's rudeness. Thinking of leaving but obviously am broke. Have no family support or whatsoever. Has anyone been in this position and left successfully? I feel trapped.

You're married? What assets are there. What was your pre-mat leave income? What's his income? There's probably a way but it'll depend on the details of your situation.

Hi,

I have been in your situation and I know how you feel, you absolutely can leave I did. I packed up my things and turned up at the council with my 2 children they then put me in touch with a refuge and from there I lived in a refuge for 3 months until I was given a flat to to live in. Money is always tight but I'd rather be skint then be living with my ex.

You can leave, you can claim the benefits before you go so it's all lined up. Could you manage to get enough for a deposit if you'd need to re privately, that's really helpful.

But when you say rudeness - how bad? How long has it been going on? Is there no way of holding him to account?

Do you have separate accounts, that helps?

Thanks for all replies yes married and separate accounts. Leaving is definitely an option cutting down on all costs etc returning the car to save up for the deposit xx

Who does the shopping? Cash back isn't on a bank statement...

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping both really each buys what's needed for them to cook etc I buy my kids clothes, pays half the rent could be affordable if I wasn't on mat leave but will see what I can do I'd rather be poor and happy in my own house somewhere. That's the dream- my house

I didn’t leave by choice but I found out my partner was cheating when I was on maternity leave. There is so much help available with universal credits, and depending on the access you agree to, he will also have to pay maintenance to you.
It really isn’t as bad as I thought it would be. Have you looked on entitled to?

@Srae am not entitled to anything atm as both work full time. Should be entitled to something once I leave.it's the leaving and finding my own place that's need to be first and can't afford atm. Did you claim before you left? Is this possible?

Have you as yet been in contact with a Solicitor?. You need legal advice here.

I presume as well you've paid for the kids clothes etc because your H regards paying for the children your task and yours alone. He has further sought therefore to financially control you and such behaviour is rooted in abuse.

@AttilaTheMeerkat there's no financial abuse as he pays half rent, all bills and council tax. But definitely verbal/ emotional abuse hence I need out x

OP I claimed before I left. Can't remember how it worked though.