Abusive ex parenting DS

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I've just received a message from my ex. Asking if my 5yo son can go to his on my weekend so they can game together!

He is letting their gaming get out of control. They play it for 2/3 hours every night my son is there. Then in the morning and when it's his weekend they game so much. I know I can't tell him what to do but it's just so unhealthy for a 5yo to game so much 😔

I've had so many issues with this man. Not giving our son his medicine that he needs from the docs. Not getting him a mattress for his bedroom so they both Co sleep and son is coming home shattered.
On his weekends he goes off to crossfit and dumps our son on his mum. Our son has allergies and we are supoose to be introducing milk slowly yet he's giving him so much of it and our son is coming home with hives and eczema flares.

I just don't know what to do. He was abusive with me when we were together years ago and there is no reasoning with this man. He calls me every name under the sun and I just don't know what to do.

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Is such contact court ordered?.

Your ex has not changed at all and is further using his child as a stick to beat and or otherwise further control you with. His mother enables her son and he only cares about his own self.

@AttilaTheMeerkat

Is such contact court ordered?.

Your ex has not changed at all and is further using his child as a stick to beat and or otherwise further control you with. His mother enables her son and he only cares about his own self.

This is all so very true. He is the master manipulator so to everyone else he looks like the world's best dad.

No it's not court ordered and I want to get it done. I don't think I can afford a solicitor though so I'm not sure what to do.

How do I deal with him?