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How to divorce

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RaRathebravelion · 31/03/2022 22:50

I've come to bed crying again because DH has made me feel shit. I know I didn't do anything wrong. Sick of him losing his mind because I say something he doesn't like and then treats me as if I'm wrong. He is apparently very upset that I suggest he doesn't do enough for us but I don't get what he thinks he does. He can be so nasty, petty, childish and has an awful temper. We cannot rely on him. Sometimes it's like he is two different people.

Baby is under 1.

We both work. I could support myself and baby but have nowhere to go while we sort things out.

I am close to wanting to divorce then keep second guessing but I can't keep living like this and feeling like this.

He won't leave. I could get the house valued to work out whether one of us would buy the other out or to sell but he will not leave in the meantime. I wouldn't want to stay with family and cannot afford to do anything else while on limited maternity pay.

What do I do?

I need to take advice.

I just hate feeling like this. I hate that this person who is supposed to care for me makes me feel like this and then the best I can hope for is that he is in a good mood tomorrow and he will act like it didn't happen when I know I deserve an apology and the world on a plate for all I do for him!

I contribute 99% of the childcare, 80-90% of the housework and at least 60% of the finances. WTF does he do?

He says he works FOR US but he would have to work if he lived alone! When I'm not on mat leave I work too!

I am really upset tonight.

OP posts:
RaRathebravelion · 07/04/2022 14:55

I'm fed up. I have no one I can speak to about this.

OP posts:
Dimondsareforever · 07/04/2022 22:56

Hi op. I’m sorry you are feeling like this. I could have written this 10 years ago. Having a baby puts a massive strain on the relationship. Your world has been turned upside down.

You are right, DH is being shit to you.

However can I ask, what was he like before?

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