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[kelsjx]

Hi everyone! I'm absolutely besides myself at this moment, I'm a mum to 3 children 9,5, and 3 and found myself pregnant once again whilst on the coil. My partner was devastated and basically said if I don't get an abortion it will ruin the family..

I had one booked for Monday and on the day of I couldn't go through with it, I've be heartbroken for weeks over this decision. Unable to sleep, eat and concentrate

My partner literally hates me. He panics about money etc which I get. But I know I have enough love in the world for my babies. We both work jobs are ok paid but not the best...

I really do not know what to do.. he isn't even helping me with our currently children since either. I'm heartbroken, we've been together 11 years in September 😢

Has anyone been in a similar position? Really could do with some advice 🤍

Not really got any advice except he's an arse for taking it out on the kids and treating you like this. Just wanted to offer a hand hold. You will resent him if you let h push you into not having it but then you could end up a single mum to four kids.

He sounds awful. He shouldn't be taking anything out on his poor children or you.

However, 'love for...babies' doesn't pay bills. You will probably end up a single mum. Can you actually afford another baby that you were actively trying to prevent?

I'm sorry you are going through this it sucks. Have you been to the doctor to get your coil looked at/taken out as otherwise there is a risk to you and the baby.

Thank you for your replies..

This is the thing if I am pushed to do it then I will resent him for the rest of my life. I cannot imagine terminating this baby what so ever.. it's made me so ill over the past few weeks..

In regards to money I can't afford it without his help... I can't believe the man who I have been with for this many years can behave like this...

Yeh my coil is out. I was in hospital in pain and realised I was pregnant luckily that's all sorted now. Xx

Ah this is a tricky one but... do not terminate if you feel this way, under any circumstances. You'll regret it bitterly as you clearly want the child. I am pro choice by the way. Also speaking from bitter, regretful experience.

Your husband will likely come round in time. It's not fair on him but not fair on you either. Hugs xxx

Its your body and your choice. If he isn't prepared to support you then he's really not a good person. And to withhold helping with the other children as some sort of punishment shows what sort of person he is.

Sorry clicked enter before I had finished..... I do understand his shock and worries of course but, at the end of the day, its happened now and he just has to deal with it. It takes 2 to make a baby and no birth control is 100%. If he was so worried about you getting pregnant he should have been wearing a condom too.