Looking for advice. I've been with my partner for a year now and I really do love him but we are having a few issues and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to give up on us but my own mental health is dropping so fast. I already suffer with anxiety, low self esteem and just generally feel I am useless because I fail at everything I do now adding this on top I just feel I am getting to breaking point.
It was all a bit of a whirlwind romance and when we met he made me feel like the most important person in the word. I fell hard and fast and we now live together and have done for a few months. The problem I'm having is I don't know if I'm iust being overly sensitive but I am struggling to cope with his moods. He's not aggressive and never gets angry but he just has these very low moods and shuts me out completely . He will have a few days where he's happy and talks to me but then the next few days he's very low and won't talk to me at all, not even normal everyday conversations,i just get hmms and yes or no when I try and engage in a conversation with him. When he's having one of his low moods I feel uncomfortable and I feel like it's something I have said or done. If I try and talk to him about it he just says he doesn't want to talk and if I try and push it we just end up arguing which neither of us want. The whole thing just keeps resulting in me being upset and emotional and feeling like he doesn't love me and him being frustrated because I want to resolve whatever is causing him to close down the way he does.
Having not long ending my abusive marriage before this relationship started I'm worried history may start to repeat its self. I know he is nothing like my ex husband he's never even raised his voice at me but I just don't know how to handle this anymore. I know he won't see a gp to maybe see if he has depression so that isn't an option but then I just ask myself am I the problem, am I being unreasonable by not giving him the space he needs to deal with his moods in his own way.