We had a pretty good relationship for a few years pre-children and then she started interfering/laying down the law as to how we parent our DC. I have been tolerant for a while and bend over backwards for them - they do nothing when they visit (still expect to have everything done when i've just had kids, they are well looked after, i have given up my bed when i've had a newborn and been heavily pregnant for their comfort. When i visit them for a weekend they never cook and make such a fuss that i cook the meals for all of us in advance and don't get much help with the DC at all - I do it because I want to make them welcome and because financially on the occassions when we've needed help they've been good to us.
On a recent visit my DS had gotten hold of something that i am very much against having in the house. They know this well. It has been a point of debate for years. I expressed my concern (a 2 minute rant which i feel i was entitled too) and off i went about my business hoovering her dining room after DC had eaten brekkie. Well she sneaks upstairs and informs FIL (not the calmest of ppl), he descends shouting at me (i am PG too) giving me a real good telling off and bringing up a few things he'd like to get off his chest too. He slates DH telling him he's this, that and the other (like they were waiting for this opportunity). DH has a go and tells them that I'm PG and not to cause me any stress that we're leaving and MIL says 'well i keep telling you to stop having kids, you just don't know when to stop and i've no sympathy'
I retreat to bedroom very upset packing all our bags, after big bust up with DH she comes up to apologise, is very unsincere you can tell she is only doing this for sake of DC - she can hardly even look at me. I say sorry X but i'm really upset over this how could you both shout at me like that - i did nothing wrong, pls leave me alone, i just want some space etc.. etc.. so she starts again 'you are no angel you, you just make a fuss over everything we do, well if you don't accept my apology you will never hear another one!' so i said 'okay your loss, just leave now pls' and out i go and pack car and take my DC away. DH left on good terms but assures me that once they've had time to reflect on it all he is going to talk to them. His dad was really horrible to him - really doesn't like him.
I don't want to see them again, i never want my DC (although they didnt understand this time) to see their mum being shouted at like this. I dont want them to ever visit me. Am i being OTT? I really dislike them after this and have no respect for them. The line has been drawn.
I cannot take abuse of anykind i grew up with too much of it. I just keep replaying these grown up inlaws standing there shouting at me while i'm stood PG in front of my DC. Not on is it?
Sorry, am really taking a look at my life this week and trying to get everything into perspective