Hi,
Partner and I have been together for 14 years. Bought a house together 50/50, have a son almost 6 years. Things have been bad for last 2 years. When I have my son I stop working and partner never complaint about it. The first two years he had a normal job so wanted to go for a contract and he wanted to stay overnight twice a week as it was almost 2 hours away. i insisted no but he said we could re do the house as it was good money. Started to work there making good money but he just wanted to provide for the basics. The bathroom was falling apart full of mould, the sink split up and it was dangerous for my son. After asking many times and several arguments he finally agreed to re do it. The carpet in the house was disgusting more than 1o years probably so a year after the same problem to try him to spend money on it. He was earning really good money enough to do this and save. A part of this, he is very selfish and controller. He buys what he thinks it is needed and when I said we need this even if it is for my son it is a big problem and an argument. When he was working close home, He never wanted to give the card to do shopping he would prefer to come back to work and do it him self. once he started to stay away for the new job i told him he could not let me at home alone without money and started to give me some cash. In summary, last year 2021 in February our mortgage expired and he tells me he wanted to remortgage the house £20000 more as he wanted back the money he spent on the house. For me this was horrible, made me feel like this relation was a business not family. Had a massive argument almost split, and he came back to me asking to try again given us another opportunity, But then, now he wanted to do the mortgage just interest only which again made feel he was not treating us as a family. I totally refused and finally we did it as fixed interest. Since then I have been very disappointed, and soon after |I got a job thinking things will get better but no. I started to work doing 27 hours a day while my kid goes to reception. I earn 1/3 of his salary so I said we contribute proportional to earnings and he need to clean the house as much as me. He continue like before when I was not working just helping taking out rubbish and helping with the kitchen when ever he wanted so then i said you paid the food as it is nor fair I am working and doing 90% cleaning. We do not have a dining table he never bought it even I was asking since my kind was a year old. So i thought now i am working we can buy it together, but when I asked him he said you buy it I am paying the food and when we go out. Then, i was asking we could go on holiday and the same a problem. Now for this half term I was asking lets go some place and he finally said look for something, I started to look and send it to him, i would ask him what do you think and he would say i havent have a look, why dont we go to barcelona, or lets go for a week, etc. 4 days went pass and I said we need to book something before price up and he said ok, book it. Then he calls me when he was doing the dishes and tells me he does not want to be, he is not in love with me any more and said to me I did not look surprise. I just said to him move out from here, but he said not this is his house too.