Hi there. I'm going through Counselling at the moment. One of the main reasons I am there is due to ongoing and prolonged fantasies about other men (I am married). This has been a recurring theme all my life (since I was a young teen). They are mostly fantasies about unavailable men (teachers, authority figures, bosses etc). My Counsellor has told me fantasies are completely normal, everyone has them! I tried to explain that my fantasies are not the normal type. They border on obsession and can last for years. I feel like I am in love with this person. I think about them constantly. I would never act on these thoughts but the fantasy takes over and they can be all consuming. I think the term is "limerence". It may be due to unmet emotional needs from childhood and I know the counselling will address that issue. Can I ask if anyone else experiences fantasies like this ?? Or do you just experience the normal variety e.g. the hot Barista you imagine shagging but the fantasy is over as soon your coffee is finished 