I ended my relationship 16 months ago with my children's dad. We hadn't had sex for 2 years and we were no longer in love or into eachother. My ex didn't deal with it great at all and it took him 9 months to tell his family. I started dating someone else 10 months after the split.
We have a house together and I haven't worked for 3 years raising the youngest. Be my house for 12 years and he's been on the mortgage for 9. He's been paying everything to be fair since my youngest was born. When we separated he didn't want to to deal with a house. He wanted to make sure the kids could inherit it still. He also said we can't afford to to change our situation. I am hoping to get a little job in a couple of months. I've actually been unwell and only just received my treatment which should improve my situation a lot what. So hopefully soon I can learn a little bit of money
I am struggling to sort this situation with my ex. He simply says he can't afford to buy me out and he can't afford to go rent anywhere. I'm not sure if I'm entitled to anything in terms of benefits if I moved out.
People are starting to comment a lot more now. I'm being judged for living off my ex still. Friends and family keep saying we need to to go our separate ways. I completely agree. Some people have said he should leave you and the kids in the family home and he should go find somewhere else. Other people have said you just need to go your own way. I honestly don't know financially how this is possible when he won't budge. It's also getting me down as I try and stay at my new boyfriend's house as much as I can around the kids. It's hard because I don't want to be around my ex all the time I'm but I feel like I can't enjoy my kids the way I want to. Has anyone got any advice? I understand getting a job will be the highest recommendation. Just bear in mind that I can't do that right this second but I do hope to find something around the kids school hours which is unlikely to be sufficient.