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Blaming me for relationship with ex

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 12:22

Bit of background.
Last year I saw someone for a few months. I knew him from years ago and we had a bit of a thing back then. He told me his last relationship was for 12 years and ended a year before we started seeing each other. He and his ex stayed friends. Things didn’t work out between us (my choice) and he’s now said as a result of us seeing each other his ex and her grown up daughter want nothing more to do with him.
It feels like he’s blaming me. If he was single when he was seeing me, why should it matter to them?!

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Walkingalot · 29/03/2022 12:26

Maybe he didn't tell you the truth about when he split with his ex.

I don't really get the whole 'staying friends' when you split with someone. It's great if you have kids together but otherwise just move on.

You have nothing to be sorry about. It didn't work out. It's not your problem his other ex isn't speaking to him.

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 12:30

Meant to add, I saw pictures on Facebook and she had a ring on her engagement finger. I know some ladies wear a ring on that finger without being engaged. However they didn’t live together and he didn’t tell me they were engaged.

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 12:30

@Walkingalot yes, I think you might be right…

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Pixilicious · 29/03/2022 12:57

Who cares what he thinks, he’s an ex for a reason

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 12:57

Bump

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 12:58

@Pixilicious he’s made me feel guilty as I ended it

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HellToTheNope · 29/03/2022 13:01

Who gives a shit what this prat has to say? That's a him problem, and his ex being upset with him has nothing whatsoever to do with you. Block and move on with your life.

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 13:22

Makes me feel like he’s lied to me. How can his ex from a year ago object to him seeing someone else!?

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HellToTheNope · 29/03/2022 13:31

@Tryingagain99

Makes me feel like he’s lied to me. How can his ex from a year ago object to him seeing someone else!?
You are wasting far too much emotional energy on this. Let it go. Anything about this man is irrelevant.
Walkingalot · 29/03/2022 14:20

I get why it bugs you and you have unanswered questions but he no doubt didn't tell you the truth while you were with him so he's unlikely to now.
Block him and move on.

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 15:02

@Walkingalot thanks - it does bug me! I’m certain he was lying now. Also explains his reluctance to add me on Facebook when we started seeing each other and saying he wanted to keep things between us - unbelievable 😠

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Georgeskitchen · 29/03/2022 18:46

It's not your problem . Don't engage with him

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Tryingagain99 · 29/03/2022 18:58

@Georgeskitchen thanks - I don’t intend to! I’m just feeling very annoyed that I’ve clearly been lied to or at best mislead. 😞

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