Have had second thoughts about online date and want out..

[Gazpacho000]

I matched with someone on tinder, spoke for a few days then swapped numbers. He's become quite full on quite quickly. He messages and if I don't message back straight away he'll message again. Leaves me copious amounts of voice notes when I'm at work. I've got the ick now.
I feel terrible to just ghost him or block him as he's not an awful person and nobody deserves that. I've had that happen to me and it made me feel like crap.
What can I say to him to say I'm not interested anymore but in a gentle way. He's already sent me a morning text which has made me feel ick.

Don't make the mistake of thinking you have to be 'nice' and polite. He could be dangerous. Block him immediately. He doesn't care about your feelings... he knows he's suffocating you, he's doing it on purpose. So he is showing he doesn't care about your feelings - he's doing what HE wants without checking if it's OK with you.

I don’t explain to people why, I just think that it means they will be able to modify their behaviour for their next date and so there’s less red flags for another poor unsuspecting women to spot.
Just say you’re no longer interested and block.

I felt uncomfortable straight away. It is suffocating. You don't need to be constantly WhatsApping all day long.. Unless both people want to be. Sent him a message saying I'm no longer interested and good luck then blocked him and unmatched him on tinder. Feel relieved.

Listen to your gut. If alarm bells are ringing already definitely block him. You don't have to be unkind. Like somebody else said, tell him your circumstances have changed and move on. If there's one thing I've learnt in life is to trust my gut, I've gone against it so many times and regretted it later. Good luck

Say you've got back with your ex. It's the most effective thing ime and when they think there's another man on the scene it has the added bonus that they tend to leave you alone.

Really glad I went with my gut.

Well done OP.

It's very hard to be of the sex socialised to 'be kind' sometimes!

Good that you sought out other views and went with your gut instinct.

Wow that follow up re: your daughter is fucking weird. I'm so glad you've blocked him!