Me and DH have been together 7 years and have a 1 and 3yo. My entire adult life I’ve been in a relationship living with a man and never been independent or been on my own and have a big fear of it. DH and I have been in a vicious cycle over a year now of constant arguing and fighting that gets worse every time I finish ovulating and gets a bit better when my period comes. I have decided to move out for 6 months to have a breather and learn to be alone and face my fears. We will still be in a relationship, seeing each other weekly communicating daily and continuing our couples therapy every week as this has been very helpful. We had kids young and I have some trust issues I’ve had trouble letting go of as I found he had cheated when I was pregnant with my first. I feel like we both just need a breather before i consider moving back in in the future — this is still the goal it’s just not working right now and it’s damaging the kids watching us fight all the time.
Any advice? Anyone been in this situation before and have any positive stories? The love seems gone and I just need to learn to love myself on my own before I can accept love from him I think.