Where to start. Split with my ex after 10 years a few months ago and me and the kids (5 year old and 6 month old) moved out.
I applied for universal credit, got job interviews, started seeing someone else (who has been nothing but lovely)
Ex said he wanted to talk, so I agreed.
There's were his points why he ended it
- his tea was never ready for him (he WFH and said he preferred to cook, when I do cook he hovered over me and for the 9 months of pregnancy I had hyperemesis)
- I gave up work to be a 'housewife' but I wasn't a good housewife. I didn't do much with our eldest apart from sit him in front of the tv while I sat on my phone
- because he earns a good wage I didn't have to work or worry about bills and I didn't appreciate it
- I made his parents feel 'outcast' (they chose to move to Cyprus so we barely saw them)
- when he said he was leaving before I went on tinder and he found out. He said he "can't get over' this and the fact I spoke to other males in messaging sometimes.
- I wasn't affectionate and he didn't get much sex ( he would sulk if I turned it down)
- I didn't support his hobbies (he plays paintball at £80 a go once a month)
- I didn't support his career. I was jealous he had a career and hobbies and I didn't.
- i didn't care about the kids!
He then cried and said he had nothing as he moved up here for me, but can't be miserable as he was with me and during his this talk I didn't say the "right things" (I think he wanted me to cry say I was sorry and I'd have his tea on the table every night)
I actually felt ok and was enjoying life a bit again and dates with the new guy until this. Now this has messed my head up.
Was I so in the wrong? If he didn't want me why say all this?