just sent divorce papers to my STBXH who was abusive. but i feel so sad and suddenly uncertain, why can't i hold on to how horrible he has been instead of thinking about what I am losing...
and those of you who have been where I am, how long does it take to stop having feelings for someone in this situation? I feel pathetic to say I still love him but you can't just wipe out a long marriage in one go, can you?