What is this called

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I’m struggling with anxiety at the minute and I’m trying to work out what’s happening.
I get anxious when I’m not with my boyfriend. But it doesn’t come from a place of wondering what he’s doing or where he is or who he’s with, as I do fully trust him.

I find it’s separation anxiety and I also have another problem - does this have a name? I feel like if things aren’t explicitly said, they’re not true anymore. For example my boyfriend could sit and say he loves and cares about me and I’ll feel ok. But then if I go home, and he’s not on his phone texting me, or were talking about other things, I start to think he doesn’t feel that way anymore. Does this have a name? What is wrong with me? If it’s not explicit I think it’s gone and I want to feel more secure. Deep down I know it

Help would be really appreciated as I’ve tried Googling it but can’t find anything

It sounds like deep-seated insecurity, possibly an attachment problem.

It causes many people a lot of pain until they learn to manage it, often with the help of therapy.

You sound quite self aware, OP. I don't know the name but I imagine you would benefit from some therapy.

Depending on how intense it is, it could be insecurity, or if the thoughts are genuine fear/anxiety, it could be Relationship OCD
iocdf.org/expert-opinions/relationship-ocd/

Needy?

www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/needy

psychcentral.com/blog/needy-person-in-relationships

Insecure attachment style - anxious attachment is what I’d be looking up

Sounds like it’s all part of separation anxiety. It has lots of elements to it

What's your relationship with your parents like? Did you have a difficult childhood?