Should I be this annoyed

[Emily94x]

So my husband is self employed, have an amazing little baby

Beautiful home everything’s well but he just doesn’t know when to switch off and doesn’t get home most evenings till 11-12 I’m doing everything!
He doesn’t pick his phone up when I try ring, which makes me think other why’s !! It’s 2 in the morning and still nothing

I’m actually feeling so fed up with his behaviour and he knows it

What do you think I should do, or am I being ott or being self employed adds to much work load and that’s why he switches off

What on earth does he work at to be out at this hour?

Aw I believed my exdh was working. I found out he was in pubs and socialising most nights. After 3 DC's and only 7 years of marriage I dumped him. turned out he was also sleeping with our lodger

What is his job??

2AM and not answering phone calls and he didn't bother to message you to let you know he's going to be late? Errmmm forgive me for saying but this is not normal behaviour even if he says he's working. Something's very fishy here. I would calmly but firmly sit him down and try to have a chat about why he's still at work at 2 AM and why not returning your calls.

That's not normal 'self employed' behaviour OP, that's 'I'm out having fun/an affair' behaviour.

There is NO job that entails working until the small hours and being 'unable' to even answer your phone !

He won't answer his phone because it's going to interrupt his time with someone else, or it would give the game away that he was in a pub/club !

Why not put a 'find my phone' app on his phone (without his knowledge), then simply track his movements ? You'll soon see where he IS spending all his time.

I was once married to a workaholic while trying to look after a small baby. I eventually left, although it took a while for me to realise it would never change. I wanted a modern marriage; he wanted a wife in the 1950s or something. Even if your husband is actually working, it’s not an acceptable way to behave.

Trying to work out what kind of self employed work requires these sort of hours AND no phone answering. I do the kind of work that could, theoretically, require me to work all the hours if I had enough work. But it's also the kind of work I do in a quiet room and therefore could absolutely answer the phone.

He's demonstrating a complete lack of respect for you and your family if he can't be bothered to stay in touch. At best, he genuinely is working but is doing so without any consideration for his relationship with you or your DC. At worst, he's not working but doing something else.

Another one wondering what the hell he does for work.

Personally I'd be blunt with him and tell him it's not acceptable. He has a wife and baby, he needs to manage his time better. It all sounds a bit fishy if I'm honest though.

My ExH worked a ridiculous amount of hours and was regularly away (staying in hotels), He is a mechanical design engineer and often he would work through the night - theatres, car shows etc where they could only work when the event closed. I never suspected him of cheating though and if he worked through the night, he didn't work through the day, so was home.
When he worked days, drawing, meeting clients etc, he'd be home at night.
I've no idea why someone would have to work day and night??

And he used to answer his phone at any time

I think he’s spinning you a line.

Self employed here....
Home before dc's tea every night..
Unless he works nights he is a piss taker....

@gonnascreamsoon
Why not put a 'find my phone' app on his phone (without his knowledge), then simply track his movements ?
Because its stalking and if anyone did that to r they would be gone in a heartbeat

You need to ask him what he's doing and tell him how you feel about this unsatisfactory situation.

Are you sure he’s working at 2am ?