Sister in law

[HeArInGhandsgirl11]

Sister in laws- besties? Avoid them at all costs?

You can never be true besties with your SIL if she's the sister of your OH. You can't ever really be 100% relaxed and honest, e.g. when letting off steam to your girlfriend after you've had an argument with your OH. The SIL could be the loveliest person in the world but whose back do you think she'll have if the proverbial hits the fan?
I'd always keep SIL at arms' length even if she's a lovely person. If she's not a very nice person, I'd keep contact to a minimum and tell her zero about your relationship.

Do you call your husband's brothers wife your sil? And your husbands sisters husband your bil?

Oh lord. She can't be doing with me. She told dh he didn't "have " to marry me when he told her we were engaged... I'm massively tense and "sharper" around her iykwim. It's awful. We're all staying together at fil's this weekend and I already want to stick pins in my eyes.

@whatever1980

Do you call your husband's brothers wife your sil? And your husbands sisters husband your bil?

This is his brothers wife.. so his brother BIL and his wife SIL

I love my SIL almost as much as my own sister even though we are very different. She adores my DC and I like seeing that.

@DebiNewberry1997

Oh lord. She can't be doing with me. She told dh he didn't "have " to marry me when he told her we were engaged... I'm massively tense and "sharper" around her iykwim. It's awful. We're all staying together at fil's this weekend and I already want to stick pins in my eyes.

I can completely relate to this! I also get very anxious on the way to any gatherings with her there

I hate my DH's Sister. She's spoilt, difficult, selfish and thoughtless. If she does help someone out it's begrudgingly and she always has to have something in return. Everything with her is transactional.
Everyone in the family knows not to ask her for help as she's always too busy!

My husbands sister is really moody and difficult, she is a champion at one -upmanship. We don't really have a relationship apart from exchanging gifts out of obligation at family events . Even my husband doesn't like her.

I love mine. But there's a bit of tension since she remarried. I find her husband a misogynistic arse and she's talking his vibe. I miss her.

I lovey DH sister. And my brothers wife. I even love my sisters husband. They are all very different to me and DH but great people.

I love my husband's sister. She's 15 years older than me and her children are more than 20 years older than mine. We don't have a "going to the pub" relationship but she's like my older wiser big sister who I can talk to about anything.
My brother's partner is 10 years younger than me. I really like her too. We mainly see each other as families because they live a fair way away but we have deliberately met up a couple of times as just the two of us and it was lovely.

I used to get on with mine but she got obsessed with fitness and gym and now it's all she (and MIL) ever talk about. Her next half marathon/marathon/ultra and how wonderful she is because she runs. Boring AF.

If you mean husband's brother's partner-avoid. She makes it clear she doesn't like me, couldn't even plaster a smile on her face at my wedding and when we make the effort to travel to see his side of the family she makes excuses not to come with her partner (DH brother). The first few times felt okay-ish, though I did wonder. Now I just realise she's obviously not bothered so touché!

If you mean my brother's partner then she's absolutely lovely and really fun to be around!

My brothers wife, love her. Totally different character to me in most ways, but we just click.
My BILs wife, not so much. We’re friendly and that bit we’re not friends, she’s quite clear on that! Similar backgrounds but v different outlooks on life

My brother’s wife is one of my best friends-she is fabulous.

DH’s sister is nice. We aren’t besties and we have our own friends but I feel we get on well; she’s 10 years younger than me though.

Mine constantly messages me. I feel like it's becoming a bit of an obsession

I'm very close to two of my SILs, another I'm not quite as close to but we get on well. The fourth one unfortunately I don't gel with at all.

My DH’s sister is really lovely and I like her a lot, and I’m sure she feels the same about me, but we have NOTHING in common. Couldn’t be more different if we tried! It means we interact mostly like close work friends, which I think we’re both very happy with. DH wishes we were closer though. I’m very close with one of his brother’s partners though - genuinely friends and go out just the two of us.

One of mine is just a fucking twatty Princess and fortunately they moved a long way away.
One is a bit gobby but means well.
One is lovely but stresses about EVERYTHING.
The final one is just lovely.

DB's wife just isn't interested in our family Even DM won't stay with them anymore after coming out of a room she'd been cleaning (was helping out) to find SIL had gone shopping & left her alone without even telling/asking her to go with. At Xmas one year we travelled to stay with them. DC, DPs & us sitting there all afternoon alone because they announced straight after lunch they were going to visit her parents. Didn't invite us, didn't come home til dinner & wondered why we were upset.

Other SIL is manipulative & schemey & selfish. Ruined our wedding out of jealousy & currently trying to manipulate DH into letting IL's live with us & us do all their substantial care/appts etc while she lives her fancy life uninterrupted. Luckily he now sees her for what she is & knows how bad his parents are so has firmly said hell no.

It makes me sad as I always hoped to have just one nice SIL who I could get along with.