Age gap

[Borris]

Would you date a 27 year old (m) if you're 42 (f).
I wouldn't go the other way with a man so much older.
He seems pretty keen, but don't want to let my guard down and then get played.
He is hot and the first guy I've fancied for aaaaages.
He thought I was younger and I thought he was older when we first met.

Yes - just have your boundaries firmly in place and take it slowly. There are no guarantees with any relationships!

Yup. I'm 40 soon and my OH is 29
Been together nearly 4 years & have a mortgage together. Age difference never been an issue

What's the problem ? It can be an issue and frowned upon when one of you is 16 and the other 31 but not when the youngest one is 27. 27 is almost a decade in to being an adult

Yes at 27 he should have sufficient maturity so his age wouldn't bother me. Life is short and nobody knows if any relationship will last, so the future worries of 'you're 60 and he's mid 40s' wouldn't bother me either.

Would you date a 27 year old (m) if you're 42 (f).

No way. I'd be happily single if that's all that was in offer.

Yes. It's the same age gap as my DP & I (but we're a few years older than you 2). I had a few wobbles at the start due to our age difference but he reminded me he had plenty of offers & CHOSE to be with me. And I swear the old saying 'you're as old as the man you feel' is correct. I'd recommend a younger man to any independent woman over 40, it works really well. They're much less misogynistic/entitled, can keep up sexually & aren't starting with the typical health problems that a lot of middle aged men have.

I’m 38 my partner is 52, we have been together 6 years. I am sure some people have judged but we are happy so who cares!

Absolutely not. Too close to my oldest DS's age for my taste.

Interesting mix of thoughts. Thankfully no children of remotely close age so that's not a concern. I think I'm going to cautiously give it a go, fully expecting it to not work out so I'm pleasantly surprised if it does.

Most likely it’ll be some fun and sex for him. Enjoy but guard your heart.

No way. I wouldn't consider someone with such an age gap relationship material. However, I had a crush on my boss when I was mid 20s and he was early 40s. I'm still in touch with him but he looks like a really old man now.

My DP was 31 and me 43 when we got together. 9 years later still very much in love and very happy. If you click, have shared interests and laugh together it works

I wouldn't, especially if I was looking for a long term relationship. Mainly because everytime, people I know that have been in similar relationships they go soutg oncecthe woman hits menopause. The men have then gone on to get with someone younger and have kids.

I would find that immensely painful if I was in love with someone.

However, those people in my life are a very small sample size. It impacts me because its people I know.

There are many cases in the wider population, where that doesn't happen. But people find the situations closer to home always colour their opinions more.

My choice to not go for it, shouldn't mean you don't. We all make the choices we are happy with. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. But isn't that the same for any relationship?