He’s married isn’t he?

[Stuckinarut79]

Met a man OLD, we have lots in common and I fancy him a lot. However …
He calls during work time only, just texts of an evening, and not every evening, has a habit of falling asleep and I don’t hear from him at all.
We were going to go out Friday night but he cancelled late on - had to work late.
Rearranged for this week, I said great I’m child free that night, he says he meant day time, thought we could have lunch.
I only have a couple of child free nights I can meet.
I just can’t shake he’s attached.

Sounds like it. Sorry OP.

Yep, probably.

Yes, sounds likely, I'm afraid.

But even if he wasn't, he's distinctly lukewarm and that doesn't seem particularly promising either

Definitely, block and move on

Does sound a bit odd, married or in a relationship.
If your not good enough to part of their prime time then you are only an option, sack him off.

Have you met him yet OP?

He ain’t making much of an effort is he?

Yeh, trust your intuition. Wanting to meet for lunch could be a sign he's married. I know it's early days, but you have met for dinner, now he wants to meet for lunch. Id be a little suspicious

Sounds like he is in a relationship or married.
But even if he isn't this is going nowhere as he doesn't seem to be able to make arrangements that suit you and stick to them.
So this is what things would be like going forward.

Bin.

I wouldn't go for an evening night as the first date either. It's not a date, it's a quick coffee and cake meeting to see if you want to see them for a proper date.
There's nothing wrong with being lukewarm before you meet in person and I wouldn't want to spend my evenings chatting to someone I have never met.
All of the above notwithstanding, I think he is married or in a relationship.

We did go out for dinner the week before. Got on really well lots of chemistry. He’s been calling twice a day since.
It’s just the evening availability that’s making me question.
Anyway I’ve told him I can’t see it working as I can’t shake the feeling.
He seems hurt, swears he isn’t but not OTT. Who knows, but I’m going with my gut.

Yeah he is.

And at best you would be his exit affair, its pathetic how many people cant leave a marriage that they are unhappy in without being sure that there is someone ready to scoop them up.

A dated a guy that would talk /text all day long M-F. But never in the evenings and only when he was out and about on weekends during the day. We only met during the day as well….He had a long term live in partner

Yep, my friend was in a similar situation. He only messaged/ called when at work. And when she tried to text him in the evenings, he took hours to reply. Only meeting for coffee/ lunch. She started questioning after few months in as he seemed to be behaving quite odd at times and he would give her the excuse that he's too tired. The man wasn't that old , mid 40's. She later found out that he's actually married and with 2 teenage sons!!! Of course he tried to give her the old chestnut that he's not happy, will get a divorce etc. She ended it . So I think somethings up with your bf too. It's quite suspicious