Long story he short: I do everything and he also treats me like crap but I wouldn't know how to leave him if I wanted to.
You don't have to read the rest but it's almost therapeutic to type out:) I would like a bit of advice on what to do in this situation though:(
It's the all too familiar story of the man not doing his share and the woman getting burnt out from it all. It's so cliché but I really thought it wouldn't happen to me and that we were fine but I ignored all the red flags and now I have a nearly 7month old daughter and I'm exhausted and depressed.
He takes no initiative and when I tell him what to do he still doesn't do it - and makes me feel like the bad guy for bossing him about. He talks to me like utter crap, zones out of conversations and just scrolls through his phone while I'm talking, he hates being told what to do but if he eventually does something I don't get 5 seconds of peace because he'll come up to me with all sorts of questions... "What food do I give her?" "What do I use to clean the bath?" "I've hung the washing but you fold the clothes neater so I've left them for you."
He literally moans and sighs if I ask him to grab me a glass of water or give me a backrub. Half the time he doesn't get me the water and if I do get a backrub it's a little rub and pat for 10 seconds with one hand while he scrolls through BBC sport with the other.
He also expects intimacy and gets so frustrated with me but I'm exhausted, constantly needing that shower that I never get round to having and funnily enough since he's acting like a child I don't find him attractive.
He deliberately takes ages to get out of bed to soothe the baby when she wakes a million times at night so that I end up doing it. He'll call me every name under the sun if I try to get him to go see to her.
I come from a broken home with abusive parents and I feel so guilty because of my daughter but I think I want out. But even the thought of the financial aspects of separating gives me huge anxiety and despite my partner saying "if you're so upset, just leave then" he gets all stroppy and refuses to talk when I mention us splitting.
What on earth do I do, I feel too tired to come up with a plan but I also can't live like this.