OLD & distance

[Prescillapeugeot]

For those who do online dating what is the maximum distance you would be prepared to travel to meet a complete stranger?

For me personally I would never want a long distance relationship and like getting to know someone face to face.

30 miles?

Not far at all, for a first date I would want to meet in my local area...

I'm thinking 30 miles max as well ideally less. Would be very annoyed if I drove 50 miles to be stood up.

Well I was in the Middle East when I met my DH online. He was in Northern Europe. 20 years later (and now both living happily in the same continent!!😂) we are still together, married with a 12 year old... so I'm not sure distance is an issue if you find the right person.

@Squishmael

Well I was in the Middle East when I met my DH online. He was in Northern Europe. 20 years later (and now both living happily in the same continent!!😂) we are still together, married with a 12 year old... so I'm not sure distance is an issue if you find the right person.

No, but eventually one of you (or both of you) would have to uproot to make it a 'real' life especially if you want to share a home and have (child)ren.

We met online with a distance of 200 miles between us. We alternated visits but on the fifth meet decided to take the plunge and he moved in. 4 years later and not a single regret.

If I was looking for a full relationship I’d say 10miles/20min max. Just casual or a fling I’d go further

@Catcrazy83

If I was looking for a full relationship I’d say 10miles/20min max. Just casual or a fling I’d go further

Can I ask why you would travel further for something that’s just casual, like why you would make the effort for something that isn’t serious? Not judging just curious! As I would expect it to be the other way for most people.

With the cost of fuel I'm thinking a two mile radius is plenty . Where I live my OLD searches show me men who live 11 miles away. That's if you have a seaworthy boat though!

I prefer it when they suggest to come to my town for the first date, and mostly they do or nearby, I would travel more up to 10 miles for a first date, and when looking for a relationship within 20 miles would be as far as id want to travel on a regular basis.

I'm definitely not a long distance relationship person although it suits some, even then I still think it's nice when the man puts in more effort for travelling on the first date.
Beakerofbras that is a nice outcome for you after just 5 dates.

I've revised mine to 20 miles after the last two potentially decent things said I was too far away at 30 miles . 🤷🏻‍♀️

Mine is set to under 10 miles. I do live in a city though.

@AHungryCaterpillar I wouldn’t begrudge more distance for short term fun, but would get very bored and resentful of it long term, definitely not sustainable for me

Oh I see that makes sense!

My ex lived an hour and a half away from me and neither of us drive, that was a completely pain and definitely wouldn’t do it again.

@AHungryCaterpillar

Oh I see that makes sense!

My ex lived an hour and a half away from me and neither of us drive, that was a completely pain and definitely wouldn’t do it again.

How come you don't drive?

Mine is set at 30miles as I live rurally and there's no decent guys even within 30 miles let alone the ideal 10miles!
I've dated guys mostly within 20 miles which is fine, I'm not particularly looking for a long term relationship so it's handy knowing I won't be bumping into them at the local Tescos

Live in London so transport is good and reliable.

Even with that though still wouldn’t want to travel and hour and a half to meet someone even if that was by car.

In an ideal world, I would say 20-30 miles, however, I met my partner on OLD 8 months ago, and we have about 90 miles between us. It’s working well, however. We both drive and make the effort to make time to see each other. One day, in the future, we’re going to have to make a decision on where we want to live I suppose, but we’re. It planning on amalgamating our lives until our kids have left home, so we’re making it work for now as we want to be together.

When I met my now boyfriend on OLD he messaged me and he hadn't come up in any of my searches because he was outside my search radius. He lives about 45 mins to an hour away depending on traffic. He also doesn't drive. Nonetheless, while I was unsure at first, it has worked out fine.

I think with OLD it's possible to apply all sorts of parameters to your search or who you'll respond to but ultimately every parameter narrows your options and so any red lines should be carefully considered. I'd personally rather a man who shared my faith and lived further away than someone round the corner who didn't.

I had 25 miles as my max distance on Tinder.
'Accidentally ' matched with DP end of 2020 who lives 100 miles away but was working near me at the time.
We are really happy but the distance is a pita. More for me than him as he loves driving the weirdo!
I often wish he was just round the corner.

Meeting someone - other side of London or a short drive from where I live. So probably 20-25 miles.

Current boyfriend lives other side of London to me and it's a bit of a PITA.

Bf is in the same town 5.5 miles away but it takes about 40 minutes to get there. The distance alone doesn't tell you that much really.
Had someone further away before but it wasn't worth the hassle.

Currently 20 mins in the car up the road, it's perfect. Had 4 mins up the road with an ex - too close, too much pressure to meet up too often (but also he lived alone, no DC's, whereas I have DC responsibility, so that was a factor).
Now he's close enough to nip over for a meet, but far enough that not likely to bump into him if it all goes ties up in future

One hour when parter stays at his father's - 30 mins when he stays at a friends. We are going to be living together soon though.