Mothers day

[Missusmiddleage]

So I'm currently sitting in my bedroom having had to make my own breakfast and had nothing for mothers day, not a card, nothing. This is the last installation of my husband being a selfish, inconsiderate pig and I'm done.
I have even made sure that HIS MUM gets flowers delivered today from us and he can't even get his arse into gear to take my daughter out to get a card for me. Even if on the off chance he goes out now its too little too late. I'm literally done

The amount of angst caused by mothers days on MN today, is the reason I don’t worry about these commercialised days. My DS made me laugh when he said is it today .I thought it was next week 😂. The important thing is how you are treated everyday. Not worth getting upset over things like this, life is too short.

@Bunty55

I appreciate your husband is a bit of a shit, but your daughter should be ashamed

??????

But you have nothing to say about the actual adult son who also died nothing?

Once your dc are teenagers and adults Mother's Day isn't for your husband to do. You aren't his mother.

He should be getting his own mother flowers. I can never understand why people do this.

neatlittlerows

Don't get overinvested in other folk's comments.

@FiveForAPound

Once your dc are teenagers and adults Mother's Day isn't for your husband to do. You aren't his mother.

He should be getting his own mother flowers. I can never understand why people do this.

Agree

Certainly my 20 year old should have done something but we live in the middle of nowhere in Devon so my 14year old would have had to relie on her dad to take her somewhere to at least get a card or flowers. Any how it's not happened and this is the long laundry list of them not giving a shit,

Your 14 year old must have been somewhere with some shops in the last few weeks or months!

And if she wanted to get you flowers the onus is on her to tell her dad that not the other way round.

The 20 year old has absolutely no excuse at all.

Its a lot of commercialiesd shite...its not about one day...I hate all this money making stuff....how are you treated the other 364 days of the year?....get a grip

@Missusmiddleage

So I'm currently sitting in my bedroom having had to make my own breakfast and had nothing for mothers day, not a card, nothing. This is the last installation of my husband being a selfish, inconsiderate pig and I'm done. I have even made sure that HIS MUM gets flowers delivered today from us and he can't even get his arse into gear to take my daughter out to get a card for me. Even if on the off chance he goes out now its too little too late. I'm literally done

This is me exactly, I told him I wanted a divorce today and he agreed so pretty shit 💐

@Bunty55

neatlittlerows

Don't get overinvested in other folk's comments.

Don’t see how asking a question is overinvested. Don’t post on a public forum if you don’t want people to question you. Your comment was misogynist. Have a nice day.

I’m so sorry. It’s very thoughtless of all 3 of them not to bother getting you anything (assuming there is no wider context). I can understand not going over the top as it is a bit of a made up day, but it’s really not difficult to get a card or do something small in recognition.

Sadly I think it’s not that uncommon for one person in the family to be a giver (of gifts/time/attention/care) and for others, or the rest, to be takers. I almost feel that the more someone does the less others appreciate it and the less they do in response.

My Dh did fuck all, then this morning started asking me what we should do….basically wanted me to get him out the hole and suggest something he could do for me. Honestly it’s pathetic and once the kids are in bed I’m going to be having words. I don’t want to fall in the passive aggressive/silent treatment type way of dealing with things. I’m just going to tell him that his lack of effort upset me. I don’t even expect much, just a minuscule amount of though…like a card….or anything. He’s been telling me “oh I’ll book you a spa day with a friend”……but I just want to tell him to fuck off. Imagine doing fuck all for something like someone’s birthday then on the day trying to get them to think I’d somewhere to go, then eventually telling then of this great thing you will one day book for them (that’ll probably never happen).

Luckily my 5 year old has been massively sweet giving me homemade cards and a packet of her sweets from her treat bag. In all honesty that’s all I want from the kids…a sign that atheyve given me a little thought and done something kind for me. It was perfect. Just a shame it was a 5 year old that realised and not the full grown adult I live with.

Sorry my response to your op seems to have turned into aren’t,

@Juanmariaramierz

Its a lot of commercialiesd shite...its not about one day...I hate all this money making stuff....how are you treated the other 364 days of the year?....get a grip

Do you not celebrate birthdays or any cultural celebrations with gifts etc then.

I got flowers from eldest son, chocolate from foster son, youngest son taking me for a meal next week and made me laugh, he told me he is second in line for flowers, so when first lot dies he will replace them then dd has sent DS money to get me flowers too but was told 'you can't jump the queue, you are third in line for flower buying'. I have spent afternoon cooking with foster son and chatting on the phone with eldest son and dd. Foster son with additional needs asked DH to take him to get me card and chocolate. You need to bring up kids to want to do nice things and ask if lazy DH does not bother or think to suggest it himself. DH also got his Mum a card and sent off and put money into her account for flowers. Unless children are very small (under 7) they should be thinking about we hat to hey want you to too have themselves.