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Given up

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Matteroftime · 27/03/2022 11:27

H returned from a work trip yesterday. He hasn't spoken more than 2 words to me, except to start a fight about breakfast. This is typical behaviour, every special day or holiday is sabotaged by him. Christmas was horrendous, my birthday usually ends up the same way and Mother's day 2022 is grim.
It's not a relationship and I need to leave but don't have the strength to fight him. And fight he will.

I have no-one to share with IRL so putting it here for venting purposes

OP posts:
needingpeace · 27/03/2022 11:32

Ok write it here. What’s the worst case scenario. What could he do? Have you got money? Can you rent somewhere? How can you get out?

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Matteroftime · 27/03/2022 11:55

I have some savings and a good job and could leave, rent and survive. Thrive even away from this mess. The worst case scenario is the DCs. They adore him (he's completely different with them) and if I tell him I'm leaving he'll tell me to go but that I'm not taking the children. I'm so scared to go there as whatever fragile peace we have will be completely shattered. He goes through patterns of this behaviour (which he denies) but it always comes back to where we are today.

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RandomMess · 27/03/2022 16:00

Move out whilst he's away and start divorce proceedings.

If he travels for work he can't have them 100% also the courts are in favour of 50:50 as a starting point.

How old are the DC?

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