Crushes - are they obvious?

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If someone has a crush on you but doesn't tell you, are you still somehow aware?

If you have a strong crush on someone but don't breathe a word, do you think they can tell?

If there's a "vibe" you feel, do you think the object of the crush feels it as well? Or are these things mostly one sided in your experience?

Yes it's totally obvious.
When we're attracted to someone, our pupils dilate, we have pheromones stinking up the place, our body language changes completely...
It's almost impossible to hide.

I think people that have a crush often think the object of their affection returns their feelings and will obsess over minor details to do with body language to justify that, but they’re often wrong and looking for confirmation bias. Is that what you mean?

I guess it depends on how they act around the person they have a crush on.
If they try hard to talk to them or become shy around them etc
I think it can be obvious but only to people who know the person who has the crush and can maybe see them acting differently.

I think it's one sided mostly.
I have a crush on someone and he either doesn't know or he knows but keeps me at arms length.
I don't make it obvious. I just secretly hope that he will do something if he feels the same.

Depends on how the person acts. I think generally you can tell if something is mutual or not

I had a crush on my sons teacher and I assumed he had no idea till one day I was on the phone to my sister (she didn’t know as I hadn’t told anyone) and he stopped me to talk to me about something, when I finished I walked off and my sister said “so you fancy the teacher then?!” I was like wtf, didn’t realise it was so obvious I wasn’t trying to make it obvious so I was mortified

I think it's almost impossible not to act awkwardly when interacting with the crush - for one your pulse increases, it can't be controlled - and that leads to looking 'vibrant' or possibly nervous - if you think they reciprocate you will not help but look excited.
Some people will hide it wel lbut then it will look like they avoid eye contact or look a bit off or cold with the crush - more than with others!

I had a crush and he knew - I've asked him out , even though not om a date as such - I think he reciprocated to some extent but didn't see it going anywhere (probably rightly so) - he started orignally being friendly/approachable but then turned almost arrogant and even snippy which is not what he's generally like, though when he saw I've cooled down, he has relaxed again.

*can not help but look excited

@SouperNoodle

Yes it's totally obvious. When we're attracted to someone, our pupils dilate, we have pheromones stinking up the place, our body language changes completely... It's almost impossible to hide.

Thing is, I've known people who have had a crush on someone show almost exactly the same behaviour/body language as people who have been flirting just for fun (as in, they do it as a bit of a pick-me-up, and if the person they're flirting with starts taking it seriously they back off and make it plain they don't intend it to go any further.

So, whilst the object of your affections might notice something's different in your behaviour, that doesn't automatically mean he'll know for certain its because you seriously fancy him (unless, of course, he's an arrogant twunt who believes he's God's gift... ).

Tipple yes but the backing off wouldnt work easily, if it's a crush!