Would you contact OW in this situation

[WorthEveryPenny2]

As far as I know, she didnt know about me either. He played it down saying they were casual and less than us. But they went on two holidays together whilst he was sleeping with me. So obviously she is „more” then what he told me. She is pregnant. Sounds like it was me who was a bit on the side.

She knows about me now. She made contact, I did not reply. she is not asking for any info. Part of me wants to just forget about it all. But part of me also wants some justice for what he has done. I am on fence if I should speak to her

@WorthEveryPenny2 I'm not sure if you have other posts (new to the board) but what are the circumstances surrounding your relationship?

I didn't come across as vindictive because I explained I wanted answers for my children. I approached as a mum not as a woman scorned.

Each and every situation is unique. My exp cheated twice and got caught twice. I'm sure for such a pathological liar there are more. I guess if I had 'known' about the others, I would have made different decisions. That is all hindsight though

@cleanbreak2022 it is very easy for me to detach from him, no complications etc. He is gone from my life.
I just do not want another woman to go through the same I went through. She deserves to know what she is getting into and he does not deserve either of us.

@WorthEveryPenny2 then perhaps you could write an email. Give her the facts, then she can make her decision based on the information you give her.

Keep it to the facts, take the emotions out of it, I.e. 'I love him but he's hurt me' that could lead to her thinking he loves her more.

@cleanbreak2022 well, I messaged her and she called me. And no, she is not pregnant.
What a compulsive liar

She appreciated my message

@WorthEveryPenny2 that won't be the only lie in my experience....the lies will be unfathomable

Sorry op, I hope you are ok after talking to her.
He sounds like an absolute shit.