When will I stop thinking about him?

[Positivefuture2]

I'm 13 months after the breakup of a five-year relationship that was cold and callous and came totally out of the blue. I'm no longer heartbroken and would never go back but he or the breakup still comes into my head every day and I also feel I haven't really bounced back and have lost interest in things I used to enjoy. I suppose is it normal to be still thinking of things after a year? I'm doing my best not to wallow or annoy people with how I'm feeling and have made progress but still having down days.

I’m over 18 months and some things still piss me off. But again I don’t like to talk about it because I feel I should be over it! I just don’t think it’s that simple.. but try and take care of yourself and focus on things that make you feel good!

I'm in a similar situation. Everyone including me thought me and my husband were made for each other and had a good solid marriage and adored each other, 2 years after getting married he also out of the blue turned ice cold, and spent 6 months treating me appallingly, as though I repulsed him, then changing his mind and behaviour at the click of a finger back and forth. Turns out OW. I never saw that side to him prior, he had seemed so kind. From my experience a sudden and cruel break up is so much harder as your brain can't make sense of it all. My brain is still in alot of pain and turmoil. I understand how you feel.

Thanks. I suppose when the year mark hit I felt I should be 'over it' by now. He's had many girlfriends throughout his life, I was the longest and thought I was different, but I was discarded like a piece of dirt really.