Should I give up on him?

[Lostdaughter]

Last year I found out that my dad is not my biological dad. I found my real dad. He's close enough that we can see each other, and we see each other about once a month.

The thing is, it's not been easy at all. So many difficult feelings. I feel that I've had to put myself out there again and again - being vulnerable, being strong, being mindful of everyone else's feelings in this... and I'm just not sure I can continue.

I'm wondering whether just to stop bothering. I can't decide which would be the most difficult course of action :( It's just all so painful.

That sounds very difficult - but who are you thinking of giving up on?

I'm assuming it's your biological DF that you are finding so difficult to navigate a relationship with and it was you that contacted him.
You haven't been part of each other's lives for years. It's bound to feel strange and I bet it's hard work.
If you feel you've given him ample time to come to terms with it and you still feel you're walking on egg shells or he's not making as much effort as you - then you can stop. It's that simple.
Without more info, it's difficult to comment more specifically.
I hope you work it out

What sort of relationship do you have with the man you thought was your dad?