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Original poster

OLD just driving me CRAZY!!

13 replies

leyahx · 26/03/2022 13:19

Hi,

So I went back online to potentially look for a relationship. Am I being weird or..

The person I started speaking to is 4 years younger than me, which isn't a concern for me or neither was it for him. Anyway so we ended up on a call and he rang me 4 times. He made it known he was a virgin, I mean stuff like that doesn't bother me because everyone has a past. Each time he cut off the call because he said he felt horny and he's never spoken to a woman like that before. Then he starts panting down the phone and wanting phone sex... I was so confused! So I said have a moment and if you're interested come back with a clean head (in my thoughts I was thinking "because I'm not interested in a young hormonal man")

He also mentioned, that it may be a put off for me because he wants early family involvement. Whereby, I knew this was a ploy so I was like cool I'm happy with that.

Anyway today I said I'm losing interest in wanting to get to know you, he replies "cool, bye then". The. He blocked me!!

What on earth is that?! I'm just baffled.

OP posts:
forgotoldusername · 26/03/2022 13:28

Firstly you shouldn't have let him speak to you like that on the phone.

I have had great success OLD by being ruthless. My new partner of 4 months respects me and would have NEVER tried phone sex. We kissed at date 5 and had sex only 3 weeks ago, we matched on 18th November!

Please just go on Reddit and read female dating strategy. It's easy and it WORKS (but you need to have lots of self esteem).

Good luck and come back and give us good news when you start following a rigorous approach to dating

RoundGlass · 26/03/2022 13:39

You should have blocked him for talking to you like that the first time he did it !

Original poster
leyahx · 26/03/2022 13:52

I didn't give him my number! That's one thing I've learnt from OLD. The calls were through Snapchat, I won't give my number out so easy.

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Watchkeys · 26/03/2022 13:57

This isn't online dating 'driving you CRAZY!!', it's just one unpleasant bloke.

OLD isn't for you if this sort of thing is going to bother you. Just move on. No exclamation marks needed.

CousinKrispy · 26/03/2022 15:20

Ugh what a creep. You might prefer to just cut these types off as soon as they start on this behaviour.

There are decent men online, just don't waste too much time trying to figure out the minds of losers like this. Block and move on.

Lurking9to5 · 26/03/2022 15:22

He's not a virgin. That's just to make you question your boundary and stay on the phone.

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leyahx · 26/03/2022 16:04

@Watchkeys

This isn't online dating 'driving you CRAZY!!', it's just one unpleasant bloke.

OLD isn't for you if this sort of thing is going to bother you. Just move on. No exclamation marks needed.

It's not the first person I've spoken to who is "all about sex". I've used OLD for a couple of years on and off. But something just doesn't seem to change, no matter how much you sift.
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Orchidsonthetable · 26/03/2022 16:30

I think you need to heighten your boundaries ro be honest. You’ve some random calling and taking about sex. I mean seriously. How can you not know that’s not going any where and you’ve just found some perv?

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leyahx · 26/03/2022 16:35

@Orchidsonthetable

I think you need to heighten your boundaries ro be honest. You’ve some random calling and taking about sex. I mean seriously. How can you not know that’s not going any where and you’ve just found some perv?
Well I knew he wouldn't come back, hence the block. It's just over the years it seems like people have worsened. Or I'm just attracting the wrong type of men 🤷🏽‍♀️
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Watchkeys · 26/03/2022 16:36

These sorts of men try everybody. It's not something special about you and who you attract.

Just ignore them.

Orchidsonthetable · 26/03/2022 16:39

Exactly. Op you don’t need to give every weirdo the time of day.

SheKnowsWithoutKnowing · 26/03/2022 17:35

Oh dear, sounds like his fantasy rather than reality, OLD does attract a lot of sex pests, I don't give my number out too quickly anymore, if they can have a sensible conversation for a couple of days I'll give it to them even then if a weirdo slips through the net, I'll block them. It's not you, unfortunately some men seem to think it's ok to start sex pestering soon as you start talking, they have no idea how to talk to a lady.

supercali77 · 26/03/2022 17:47

You sound surprised but the first sign that he was 'unusual' was telling you straight up about his sexual history. Idc whether you're a virgin or a manwhore- detailing your sexual past to someone you've never met is more info than needed, and then the bit where he was clearly getting overly excited purely at the sound of your voice.

The part where he blocked you isn't surprising really. As someone else said be utterly ruthless. You'll save yourself so much time

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