This might be silly. I split with STBEXH a few years ago and we're now divorced. We have still quite young dc.
When he left (OW - it didn't last) he left me and the dc in the utter shit, financially. In response, I worked my ass off, went full time, got promoted, got a second job etc and eventually bought him out. I divorced him. Dc and I are in a good place now.
Anyway, I was just wondering... People who have been through similar... Did you ever pause to process it all? I sometimes think I've been on autopilot all those years doing what had to be done, and now it's done, the shock is finally starting to hit me. Years later, long since the dust settled, it's finally hitting me that I can't believe he cheated and left us. Wtf.
Is it just me?