School run dad crush

[Crushedontheschooldad]

OK, so, my son started school around 6 months ago and immediately a school run dad caught my eye. I know him indirectly through my ex!

Although we have never talked, we do glance, catch each others eye, smile which has kind of intensified over the last few weeks.

I've found that efforts are made on both side to kind of hang around waiting to catch each other before and after school. (I'm sure we aren't stalking each other?) Ie. If I'm late he is there waiting around, if I'm early, I find myself kicking my car tyres for 10 minutes until I've had my morning/afternoon fix.

We tend to park on the same road each day and walk the same route.. I've not started a conversation yet because - we'll basically I might make a fool of myself and I don't actually know his circumstances. I've never seen him with another woman to assume he has a gf or wife. Plus he knows my ex, could this be awkward? As this is a recent ex!

What would you do?

You need to chat to him so you can find out his circumstances and whether he's interested, and sooner rather than later before you build it up and get embarassed around him. Say hello and make the odd comment. Progress to a chat as you would if he were any other parent, and see how it goes. Unless he's a close friend of your ex, I can't see why it would be awkward, but you're miles from that yet given he might not even be single! First things first.

Exactly what gap said.

Next time say hello

How would you make fool out of ourself by just saying 'hi' and a small talk? More of a fool if you keep hanging around and making that eye contact from a distance! It's not like yo udon't hav ab opportunity - he's right there! you could of course wait for him to start the chat, but someone has to start the chat!

Wtf

Why has it been hidden?

I would be that kind of person to trip over my words and mumble my way through a conversation.
Id been in a relationship for 15 years, he was my high school sweet heart and now to think that I have to start the ball rolling all over again, it's scary! It would be easier for him to start it off.

I think my ex and crush do still talk on occasions when in passing so it isn't like they are in constant communication or best friends, at least no codes will have been broken if anything was to materialise.

I often see him and his Ds when I am with mine (when we aren't just hanging around) would that be a good first time to say hello, just to break the ice, or would you suggest just going full throttle.. I feel nervous even thinking about it!

Mondays only round the corner!!! Aaaahh.

Look fab every day
Smile widely
Chat to him
Sound it out
Crushes are fun !

I had very similar, he is single and we did start chatting but nothing came of it. I had him round for a cup of tea , we went for a walk etc. I've moved on, and we still chat, he still makes eye contact, effort to speak to me etc but it's funny how differently I see it now I'm over my crush. I saw him on a dating site and so I assume he doesn't see me like that.

Enjoy it, if you're new out of the traps then enjoy the experience, use it as practice. In the cold light of day, is a liaison with a school dad could be complicated though.

It may be that I could be in the same situation as yourself but if I don't give it a try I will never know what could have been.

I would hope that if things wernt to pan out as the greatest love story in history, that it wouldn't be awkward on the school playground. After all we are adults! Our kids don't play together as they are in different year groups.

I have a million scenarios going round in my head, like I have to have a solid plan to approach this man!

I'm overthinking this!

Just talk to him! Say hi, talk about the kids, ask if he had a nice weekend/ has any plans for the weekend. Stuff that doesn’t come across as weird. If he asks about you, slip something into the conversation about the kids being with EX over the weekend to let him know you’re single.

Does he wear a ring?

It won’t be awkward if nothing comes of it, I would not worry about that for one moment.

School playground is 20 mins a day
Far less stressful than say a work colleague
Enjoy having a a crush
And practice flirting again
And don’t catastrophize
This should be fun

I married a dad I met on the school run! You never know! 💓

Say hello, at least have conversations, but I suggest don't go any further. He may be a married man for all you know. He could do the school run as he works from home whereas his wife goes to a place of work (office perhaps).

And what it’s he’s single balalake
Can’t make an omelette without breaking any eggs

Do you know where he works? That's how we got chatting. Kind "phew, what a morning already/ what are kids like/ got a busy day ahead" type convo.

Can you drop a stack of books on your walk back to the car and see if he stops to help you pick them up? (All my knowledge of flirting comes from tv sorry 😂)

I'd try and suss out his status first. Just because you've never seen a gf/wife doesn't mean there isn't one. DH drops off and I pick up every day - you'd never see us together on the school run.

You can make small talk, that's just being friendly. I talk to other parents on the school run all the time - male and female. You might be able to suss out from here whether he is attached.

@balalake

Say hello, at least have conversations, but I suggest don't go any further. He may be a married man for all you know. He could do the school run as he works from home whereas his wife goes to a place of work (office perhaps).

Yep! Many married dads do the drop and or pick up at my child's school - my DH being one! He's more Flexible with being able to do the school run than me, I probably only do 5-10% of them. Dig a bit first - if he's single then Go for it!

@Treebranches my only option would be my child's school bag!! He would be mortified thanks for the suggestion!

[quote Crushedontheschooldad]@Treebranches my only option would be my child's school bag!! He would be mortified thanks for the suggestion![/quote]
When you’ve dropped the kids off can you drop your handbag? Pretend to text while not looking where you’re going and bump into him? I’d advise to speak to him but I know I wouldn’t be able to do it myself so that’s a bit hypocritical really! Is there anything like a fete/bake sale coming up?