I've been with my OH ten years: two children.
He's always been anti-marriage and I was upset with this but accepted it. I'll be honest I was very young and naive when we met but had a good job so was independent money wise.
I've been a SAHM for a few years as youngest was born with health problems.
Things chugged along but the past year I've been very unhappy money-wise.
He pays for most things but I use my money to pay for clothes for the kids and me, days out, school things etc.
Things have got so much more expensive and I took on a very part-time job to help but it doesn't cover everything. OH refuses to get a joint account so I have to ask for money. I find this very humiliating.
Today I need petrol but can't afford to fill the car up. He won't give me his card so I'm waiting for him to go and fill it up for me.
I do wonder if he likes this control- I feel like a child asking a parent for money :/
Surely this isn't healthy? By the way I have no debt other than student loans from my degree and am a good bargain hunter: kids clothes are mostly second hand so it's not as though I would be out emptying our account.
I feel very embarrassed. I'm planning on going back to work properly once youngest is in school in September but I don't think I can go on like this.