Drunk "I love you" messages

drunkinlove · 2022-03-24T23:26:37+00:00

Are these mostly untrue, they think it's true in that moment, or mostly true? If it's from an ex? I can't ever imagine telling someone I loved them if I didn't mean it, even when drunk. Just wondering off the back of another thread.

AHungryCaterpillar · 25/03/2022 00:19

I think you don’t text it unless you mean it. My ex text me at Xmas and New Years telling me he loved me I posted about it on here but got told he doesn’t love me and me wondering why he’s texting me that means I love him 🤦🏻

layladomino · 25/03/2022 07:52

I think it could be any of those scenarios, but I think the middle one is maybe most likely. It's a cliche isn't it - the drunk person slurring I Love You to all their friends / the barman / their boss. Being drunk can give rise to that warm loving feeling.

So I wouldn't read too much in to it unless there is similar behaviour when sober.

Ostryga · 25/03/2022 07:56

If I’m drunk and tell someone I love them I definitely regret it the next day! Thankfully now I’ve grown up a bit it rarely happens

I don’t think the drunk tongue speaks truths tbh. It’s just easier to say whatever shite is rattling through your head at the time.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 25/03/2022 07:57

Oops. I voice messaged my new chap every time I had a couple of cocktails too many on holiday to tell him I love him and miss him... luckily he found it amusing and said he loved my drunken comms. I meant it. The booze lowered my inhibitions enough to tell him what he means to me, when I was only able to tell him the once sober.

girlmom21 · 25/03/2022 07:57

It depends if they think saying they love you will help them get in/back in your pants

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drunkinlove · 25/03/2022 10:42

My ex used to message me it from hundreds of miles away, but he was often drunk and I think he operated differently from other drunks. Sometimes I couldn't be sure if he was drunk or not.

He did tell me he cared, had regrets, etc when sober, so who knows.

I just can't imagine doing it. I might tell my friends when I'm drunk, but I certainly still mean that. And I tell them when I'm sober too.

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LittleWins · 25/03/2022 10:53

@layladomino

I think it could be any of those scenarios, but I think the middle one is maybe most likely. It's a cliche isn't it - the drunk person slurring I Love You to all their friends / the barman / their boss. Being drunk can give rise to that warm loving feeling.

So I wouldn't read too much in to it unless there is similar behaviour when sober.

100%

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drunkinlove · 26/03/2022 10:34

Maybe true in the moment has to be enough for me then.

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balalake · 26/03/2022 10:44

I am imagining Matt Hancock leaving such messages to the woman he left his wife for.

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drunkinlove · 26/03/2022 10:59

@balalake

So do you think those would have been genuine or not?

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LittleWins · 26/03/2022 11:16

@drunkinlove

Maybe true in the moment has to be enough for me then.

That’s not good enough for anyone.

Time to raise your standards.

5128gap · 26/03/2022 11:17

Its the emotional equivalent of beer goggles. Maybe a bit of something in it, but exaggeration of the good and minimising the bad.

5128gap · 26/03/2022 11:19

Men also do this when they fail to pull on a night out and start to panic.

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drunkinlove · 26/03/2022 11:22

@LittleWins I won't be acting on it. I'll never really know how true or not it ever was.

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thinkfast · 26/03/2022 11:28

Drunken booty call I reckon

Pandypuff · 26/03/2022 11:32

I used to drink a lot. I used to say SO many things without any basis in truth. Even to the point of blatant lies for no real reason. Literally, NO reason. No motive at all. Especially things like secretly liking someone or even loving them! I think in my drunk mind it was a sort of compliment? I don't know. When I sobered up, I couldn't for the life of me think why I'd said these things. Always caused me so many problems. I 100% believe that the truth does NOT come out when drunk! Of course there's a chance that it does, but there's an equal chance that it's absolute bullshit! And any heavy drinker or ex-drinker will tell you the same!

nuffinimlazyatthemoment · 26/03/2022 11:42

@Pandypuff

I used to drink a lot. I used to say SO many things without any basis in truth. Even to the point of blatant lies for no real reason. Literally, NO reason. No motive at all. Especially things like secretly liking someone or even loving them! I think in my drunk mind it was a sort of compliment? I don't know. When I sobered up, I couldn't for the life of me think why I'd said these things. Always caused me so many problems. I 100% believe that the truth does NOT come out when drunk! Of course there's a chance that it does, but there's an equal chance that it's absolute bullshit! And any heavy drinker or ex-drinker will tell you the same!

Same. I also used to have form for trying to book holidays with people I normally wouldn't want to spend more than 5 minutes with sober

I'd take it with a pinch of salt. I have a feeling that some people do the drunk texting thing when they haven't been able to cop off with anyone else on a night out.