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How do I get over someone I work with

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Ohtheaudacity · 24/03/2022 19:08

So this guy and I started seeing each other 2 years ago. We work together but on different floors. We dated for 6 months or so but he was getting over a messy breakup and I wanted something more serious so we decided to part ways amicably. We had stayed friends who talked every day, but in January this year I was honest with him that I couldn’t get over him while we were still in communication and it would be easier for me if we weren’t friends any more. He was lovely about it. I have been working through my feelings and feeling really positive. However today at work I’ve been told we’re having a huge company-wide reshuffle and I will be sat in a bank of 4 desks with my ex. I don’t know how I’ll cope with this. He still gives me butterflies if I ever pass him, but it’s been manageable because it’s only ever in passing once a week maybe. I don’t know how I’ll cope being sat right next to him 8 hours a day. I don’t want to quit my job, I can’t exactly ask to move, and we get along so well I can guarantee my old feelings will creep back in. What do I do? How do I cope with this?

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NeededAction · 24/03/2022 19:12

Why can’t you ask to move? Is the company aware of your relationship history (and still put you together like that? Or is this just an oversight?)
I can understand it being an awkward question though!

Ohtheaudacity · 24/03/2022 19:16

The company isn’t aware but us having a relationship wouldn’t have been a problem. We just chose to keep it to ourselves. I feel it would be awkward to go to my superiors now and tell them something that is dead and buried. Him and I get in absolutely fine and I don’t worry about our ability to work together. I do worry about my heart getting broken though.

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NeededAction · 24/03/2022 19:19

I completely get that.

In your position I’d be weighing up what was worse - the awkwardness of the convo or the potential heartbreak. I know which one lasts longer for me!!
Sorry I can’t be more help

WatieKatie · 24/03/2022 19:24

Do you know if he is still single?

Ohtheaudacity · 24/03/2022 19:30

Thank you @NeededAction I do appreciate your kind words x

@WatieKatie I don’t know and I’ve thought about both scenarios (him having a girlfriend or being single) and I’m not sure which is worse!

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