My dh is almost 86 and I am 78. We have had a long and very happy marriage with 5 dc and 9 dgc.
At the moment dh has several complete, debilitating but not life limiting conditions. He has become incredibly needy and I feel guilty for feeling irritated by this. If I go into another room he follows me. If he goes to bed first he waits about 15 minutes then calls or comes in. He says he just wants to be with me and gets upset if I say I sometimes want to sit by myself. His health means I can’t go anywhere because he isn’t well enough to be left or to get out of the car if we go out. About one a month one of our sons will come and stay with him while I go to town or to have a coffee with my dd. If she comes here (she lives nearest) obviously dh wants to be there too. She has a demanding job, two teens and a husband who helps us out with lots of practical things including picking dh up when he falls as he is too heavy for me.
I love my husband very very much, enjoy his company and would hate to be apart for more than a day or so but I feel so trapped. My close friends all live a few hours away, 2 sons live 4-5 hours drive away, one ds and one dd live abroad.
I would love an uninterrupted night’s sleep, someone to make a cup of tea etc. I don’t know what I am asking because I wouldn’t hurt him for the world.
Fwiw sex hasn’t been possible for many years as has prostate cancer among other things. I really don’t mind that, we hold hands, have a kiss and hug and sit in bed doing word games together.