Anxiety and gut feelings

[Rockchk31]

I’m really struggling with relationship anxiety. I am an anxious person anyway so it’s no surprise to me.
Been seeing my partner for about 6 weeks- immediate chemistry etc and he has been mostly amazing.
We were meant to spend 4 nights together last week but Friday night he gets a call asking him to help his best mate out…he leaves and says will try see me Saturday…nope he can’t so we said we will meet for coffee Sunday….nope he over slept and I could only do the morning. Other than this our communication has been the same etc with texts and things. He was meant to come over tonight and work from mine tomorrow but he cancelled as now needs to go to the office…my anxiety is through the roof and my gut tells me something is wrong. He has apologised and says he will be over tomorrow night until Saturday. Not sure if I’m over thinking or what. I know it’s still very early days but uurrgghhh I hate all this beginning stuff 😂😂

4 nights a week is a lot to spend with someone you're just dating. I'd feel quite suffocated by that expectation. Of course he has work, friends, hobbies, family commitments.

What else do you have in your life? I'd focus on being busier and relying on him less to fill a gap in your time.

It’s best you keep up your own social life - it means you’re not putting too much pressure on a new relationship.

All you can reasonably do is see what happens tomorrow or next week.

Honestly I don't think it's anything to be anxious about.

6 weeks in, that’s a lot. Working from you home? Each to their own and everything but that would be red flags for me. Clingy is my biggest turn off

Did u sleep with him on friday before he left.. sounds dodgy as hell to me

No we haven’t actually slept together yet, I mean other stuff yes but not done the deed. I know it’s early days but it’s been very natural and we both care a lot for eachother already. Honestly it’s just an emotional rollercoaster this early relationship malarkey!

Wow he's really giving you the run around isn't he, sounds like a load of excuses to me, are you sure he's not seeing someone else. When a guy is really into a woman in the early days, he'll put her first.
It's hard because you really like him and want to see the best but the his behaviour written down sticks out like a sore thumb that he's not as into it as you. Sorry to sound harsh but don't put up with this.

Does he have his own place? Like have you actually been there? Because to be this full on after only 6 weeks, it sounds to me like he has no fixed abode and is bed hopping btweeen dates.

I understand your feelings entirely as I get very anxious in the early stages. It does seem a lot of excuse making and that would set my gut feeling off too but did it all stack up/ sound genuine? I suppose the only thing to do would be to wait and see what happens tomorrow when he's supposed to come and see what he says.

I wouldn't put up with this amount of cancellation in such a short space again though unless it was a serious problem with his friend that took the whole period to resolve. You want someone keen to see you

It seem like you both have gone in for a lot of time spent together, but maybe that's not sustainable and you're finding this now as he's got a life outside of your relationship and struggling to fit it all in?

You probably need to have a chat and try and find a comfortable level of setting each other and having your own lives. It's a lot for 6 weeks in.

You'll only know when you see each other though.